Does your husband/boyfriend watch porn? Good. It means he’s a healthy male with a normal sexual appetite and that is not yours to control. Get over yourself

3 Nov

I’m going to post this link, but I strongly encourage you NOT to click through if you have a full stomach, because it’s pretty sickening stuff.  Kasey Edwards, a writer and columnist at Daily Life has some advice for parents on how to raise “feminist sons”, which basically means teaching them to be submissive and beating every ounce of boy out of them.  I feel sorry for the young man growing up with her, and hope his rebellion is smashingly complete with a Harley-Davidson motorcycle, multiple tattoos and a stripper girlfriend.

 

http://www.dailylife.com.au/life-and-love/raising-sons-that-respect-women-20121008-278a6.html

 

While there is a lot to tackle in this article, I’m just going to address her first “step” in the destruction of her son’s masculine spirit.

 

  1. Watching http://www.sexy-sluts-horny-pussy-make-me-your-whore-bitch.com is not sex education

 

Okay, first of all, way to completely misunderstand what porn is and why it matters to men and young men discovering their sexuality.  Men are visual creatures.  Porn translates their most basic desires into visual images.  An average man sees a beautiful woman and wants to fuck her.  He imagines her being completely willing and compliant and his desire is at the center of their “encounter”.

 

 

In other words IT’S FANTASY!

 

Kind of like the representations of men in oh, ROMANCE NOVELS, are fantasies.  Caricatures of real men and real relationships based on women’s desire, with only the woman’s own pleasure under consideration.  Women are much more stimulated by written words than visual images, but let’s be clear:  there most certainly IS porn for women and it’s called a romance novel.

 

Women can consume their porn anywhere.  There is no shame attached to it.  Look around and you will see women reading their lusty, explicit novels on the subway, at cafes, at the playground, and it probably wouldn’t raise any eyebrows to pack a romance novel to the church picnic.  Fifty Shades of Grey is an intensely sado-masochistic novel that involves beating the crap out of the heroine, which she LOVES, and it is a crazy bestseller!

 

 

Does this mean women want to be tied up and beaten?  Hardly.  It means they like FANTASIZING about being tied up and beaten.  Maybe some will give velvet handcuffs and a riding crop a whirl, but since women are in fact intelligent and perceptive HUMAN BEINGS, they understand the fucking difference between fantasy and reality.

 

Guess what?  So do men.  Start with the assumption that men are ALSO intelligent and perceptive HUMAN BEINGS, and then move on to the rational conclusion that WATCHING a hot chick blow the pizza guy until he comes on her face is NOT MATERIALLY DIFFERENT than READING about it.

 

Here’s the thing:  women assume they have the absolute right to control men’s sexuality.  Women think they are allowed to dictate how, where, when and under what circumstances men’s sexuality is expressed, all the while indulging in their own extra curricular fantasies at the local bookshop.

 

Bullshit.  Men watching porn is no different than women reading romance novels.  Expressing disgust at porn is the same thing as expressing disgust at men’s sexuality.  Edwards is teaching her son to be ashamed of his perfectly natural desires, and to accept in the future that a woman will control his sexuality, all the while assuming he is too stupid to comprehend the difference between a real relationship with a real human being and the fantasy of a purely sexual relationship he watches on the internet.

 

You can just feel the love and respect she has for her son, can’t you?  How much you want to bet that she has no objection to her daughter reading the Princess Diaries and isn’t sneaking onto her daughter’s computer to check out what books she’s been browsing at Amazon.com.

 

 

Objections to porn are fundamentally objections to men.  Men’s sexuality is different from women’s, to be certain.  That doesn’t make it bad or shameful or immoral. This is about control:  women wanting to control men and their sexuality.  And it isn’t going to work.  At least, I hope not.  Men’s sexuality is half of the basic energy that creates the world.  The other half is women’s sexuality, of course.  Together, we have created the universe.

 

And I kind of like it.  Have to get off the computer now.  Mr. JudgyBitch wants to check out the new videos at HornySluts.com.  Now where did I put my book?

 

 

Happy watching, gents, and happy reading, ladies!

 

Lots of love,

 

JB

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

17 Responses to “Does your husband/boyfriend watch porn? Good. It means he’s a healthy male with a normal sexual appetite and that is not yours to control. Get over yourself”

  1. Roger O Thornhill November 3, 2012 at 11:13 #

    She bobbed up here too!

    http://www.avoiceformen.com/feminism/feminist-lies-feminism/raising-a-feminist-son/

    Much like something else that requires a double flush!

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  2. aimeemcgee November 3, 2012 at 12:21 #

    Yes! This is the point I make time and again when women get on their high horse about porn! There is a load of difference between porn watching and porn addiction…was married to a man with the later, and that sucked.

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  3. scatmaster November 3, 2012 at 20:29 #

    Now this is a website that gets it. Keep up the great work.

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  4. scatmaster November 3, 2012 at 20:32 #

    Great article. the scatmaster has added this site to his favorite links.

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  5. John November 4, 2012 at 05:09 #

    Great to hear a gal standing up for men… and understanding!
    Just one point to add though.
    While healthy males are generally stimulated by porn, they should be careful (as with alcohol, or ladies with romance novels, as you say, or TV series, or clothes shopping etc) to consume with moderation.. it can be drug like and weakening if used to excess.
    I’d much tather be with a real woman…. but fantasy as you say is a lure.

    Oh and I suspect that woman, for their part, have a visual fantasy side which is sort of repressed by society’s role-modelling. i recall seeing a documentary research programme in which women checked out men in certain areas… unconciously.

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  6. EMMA April 1, 2013 at 15:40 #

    Agreed 100%. Women tend to be somewhat hypocritical regarding porn. While men dont seem to care what their wives/girlfriends read. My issue is with the fantasy, I think women dont like porn because they believe there’s an expectation to look/act like pornstars. Guess what, there are plenty men out there who expect their women to look/act like porn stars. Does anyone else notice the ever rising numbers of breast implants and labiaplasty? Where’s that coming from?

    But, thankfully, not all men feel that way. And my natural boobies get plenty of love.

    And while I understand there is a dark, underworld associated to porn, I still fucking love it

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  7. Ayurvedic Yogi April 10, 2013 at 04:21 #

    As a yogi this porn obsession is completely alien to me. In yoga we seek to control our sexual impulse and channel it, not indulge it unnecessarily. Therefore seeking out pornography, whether visual or literary, is not congruent with yogic values. In fact, we seek to avoid such things.

    It has nothing to do with feminism. I can’t imagine being a parent who would condone my child’s porn usage, much less encourage it.

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  8. Ayurvedic Yogi April 10, 2013 at 16:16 #

    “And while I understand there is a dark, underworld associated to porn, I still fucking love it”

    There is no dark “underworld” associated with porn. The entire industry itself is dark. From top to bottom.

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  9. Robin May 14, 2013 at 01:07 #

    Then you are repressed and I feel sorry for your figurative child. I’m a girl and I have no problem at all with my boyfriend watching porn. He has GIGS of it on his computer.

    He’s channeling his urges in a healthy way. It’s not hurting anyone and let’s me know he has a healthy appetite for sex.

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  10. edebosE September 5, 2013 at 16:08 #

    Re: the breast implants, my anecdotal experiences indicate that many women’s primary motive for this sort of surgery is to compete with other women. Sure, part of that competition does boil down to who can attract the hottest guy, but it’s still motivated by other women first and men second. I’ve never met a guy who lists having/lacking breast implants as a deal breaker. Quite the reverse: many guys are into sex with young ladies with enhanced boobage, but worry that before too long, those breasts will become grotesque, ruling out a long term thing. I freakin’ love big bosoms, but if I meet a woman who is smart and beautiful and fun, it really doesn’t matter if she has rose buds instead of honey melons. I think most guys feel the same way. But yeah, a bit of pornstar behaviour in the bedroom is always appreciated 🙂

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  11. Bill Sanders December 24, 2013 at 05:51 #

    Excellent article, as always JB. Porn offers everything real women do not. First of all, it’s FREE. Secondly, it’s available when I want it. Thirdly, I can take my time – without any pressure to perform or please it. Fourth, it never rejects me. Fifth, it never gives me dirty looks or the “silent treatment.” Sixth, it never threatens to make false allegations of rape or violence against me. Seventh, it never contacts my parents and friends to turn them against me. Eighth, it never sics a lawyer on me.

    Actually, it’s similar to a faithful dog – but I don’t have to clean up it’s urine and dung or take it to the vet or board it at a kennel when I travel. Porn has always been there to de-stress me and give me a break from my depressing reality. Why would I criticize it? It would be like criticizing air conditioning or my microwave oven!

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  12. Todd Ehlers January 30, 2014 at 11:35 #

    Exceptionally perceptive post.

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  13. weeMonkey February 10, 2014 at 18:21 #

    My first post. Discovered your site about a week ago and can’t stop reading your articles. Thanks for your insights and taking the time and effort to so eloquently express them.

    My wife of 19 years encourages me to visit porn sites. Her angle has always been that it’s a healthy distraction, keeps me focused on her rather than looking (physically) elsewhere and keeps me from bugging her for sex all the time. That’s a win-win.

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  14. Squirrel Head Mule Skinner February 20, 2015 at 22:29 #

    I also see porn as I vice. Sure, I have watched it and enjoyed it. But I prefer self-control. I do not watch porn any more. Partly because I have a little self-control. And also, a little feeling of not wanting to betray a spouse is healthy. I certainly would not criticize someone who gives in to weakness as I certainly have. Same as lying, eating too much or being lazy. We all have weaknesses and should not condemn too much. But porn is a vice.Yes, it should be legal. But it is a choice indiviuduals would be better off avoiding. I do not want our society to go down the road of saying everything is okay (even if that is what we have done.). I think it is a good thing now and then if a lady bitches and keeps her man in line. As long as she does not make things miserable. I am happy to have someone who knows when to speak up and when to shut up.

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  15. Clementia April 8, 2015 at 13:57 #

    Suppose we suggested that women shouldn’t read romance novels and men shouldn’t watch porn? Suppose both sexes focus on the real people in their lives instead,

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