Well, file this one under “No Shit Sherlock”, but in a study published in Biodemography and Social Biology, Elizabeth McClintock at Notre Dame has discovered that “very physically attractive women are more likely to form exclusive relationships than to form purely sexual relationships; they are also less likely to have sexual intercourse within the first week of meeting a partner.”
In addition, “for women, the number of sexual partners decreases with increasing physical attractiveness, whereas for men, the number of sexual partners increases with increasing physical attractiveness.”
And finally, “for women, the number of reported sexual partners is tied to weight: Thinner women report fewer partners. Thinness is a dimension of attractiveness for women, so is consistent with the finding that more attractive women report fewer sexual partners.”
Hmmm. Pretty, thin woman seem to have some upper hand in the dating market, and they use that to secure meaningful relationships that are based on something other than just sex. Why, it’s almost as if women value emotional and intellectual connections, and dislike the social pressure to have a huge number of sexual partners.
Gorgeous ladies, why aren’t more of you sluts?!? Don’t you know that being a slut is empowering and a sign of your personal liberation from an oppressive patriarchy that values you only in terms of your looks? You must fight this, oppression, ladies, and get out there and fuck a stable full of guys!
Because that will make you happy!
Except that it won’t.
http://chronicle.com/article/The-Emotional-Costs-of-Hooking/65960/
Check out this article celebrating sluts in XOJane.
http://www.xojane.com/sex/reclaiming-the-word-slut
To me there’s nothing negative about being a slut. Sluts are FUN! Sluts do whatever they want, whenever they want, and they don’t regret anything. Sluts dive as voraciously into sex as they do their other many passions. Sluts like their own bodies, and other people’s too. Sluts are enthusiastic! Sluts will do a lot for a good story.
Sluts are confident and have great shoes. Sluts are pretty. Sluts find something to love about all different kinds of people. Sluts are brave. Sluts laugh a lot. Sluts challenge gender roles. Sluts are fearless. Sluts love adventure! Sluts will try new things without worrying about looking stupid. Sluts high-five after sex.
This is an article aimed at pre-teen girls! XOJane claims to be a magazine for 18-24 year olds (which is hardly any better), but the truth is that the website is a huge favorite amongst pre-teen and teenage girls and continues to be.
Why would a website try to dissuade an entire age group from visiting a site that caters directly to them? Why would an editor shun all teenagers after her co-worker had expressed that the site was geared towards those 18-49? (By the way, 18 is a still a teenager.) It does this for the same reason that liquor and tobacco companies claim to be targeting older age groups. Simply, the site posted irresponsible content for young women and instead of admitting that, they’ve decided to swear off teenagers for good. Oh, they’ll continue to write content that teenagers will find interesting, but it won’t be “for” teenagers.
Now add on a culture that tells young women it’s perfectly fine to be fat and slovenly and that men should “like them for who they are and not what they look like”, and there you have a recipe for perfect disaster.
Why do older women (and you can bet your ass that all the editors of these magazines are older women) try to convince younger women to be fat and slutty? What’s in it for them?
Could it be that fat sluts increase the value of the older women dramatically? Instead of having to compete with young, thin women who prefer relationships over hook-ups, older women can corner the dating market by making sure men have no options in the younger pool. And younger men go for it in droves, because hey, fat sluts!
Men who are interested in casual sex only have a lot of options out there, but men who want something more, some deeper, more connected relationship with a woman, the landscape looks at little different. Finding a woman he can love and respect and admire and cherish is a lot harder when the market is flooded with overweight, ballbusting tramps who have no idea how lonely and bitter they are going to feel when they end up in an apartment with a cat at age 40, with no hope of a husband or children or family.
My advice for men who want more: start by looking for pretty, thin women. Those ladies know their own value, and in knowing their own, they understand yours. Attractive women are not attractive by accident. They understand and respect male desire, and that is the beginning of any meaningful relationship. Knowing that what men and women value is different, and understanding that different is not just better, it’s awesome.
Fat sluts? Give them a pass if you’re looking for more than a blowjob. And if sex is all you want, Christ -wear a condom! Those girls get around!
Lots of love,
JB
judgybitch 
I’ve known promiscuous women who started out attractive but all of them have ended up being not so attractive. I once asked a girlfriend if her unmarried haven’t-had-sex-for-20-years ex-hockey-player groupie best friend had ever been cute and she threw a conniption fit.
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I was reading an article on “thin privilege” last month on everydayfeminism.com. They failed to mention that one of the “thin privileges” is that a woman doesn’t have to spread her legs on the first date in order to get a second date.
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Interesting privilege.
I’ve never spread my legs on a first date, so when I speak of sluts it’s strictly from observation.
I dated my husband for six weeks (we had dinner together every night) before we hit the sheets.
Delayed gratification seems to be a lost pleasure.
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Ahhh, blowjobs from fat sluts. The best idea too much alcohol ever gave me.
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“The anthropologist Elizabeth Cashdan and others have found that where there are more men than women, women usually set the ground rules; where there are more women than men, men do. At most American colleges today, more than 50 percent of the undergraduates are women, and they feel pressured to compete sexually for men. The result is a lot of angry women.”
I’ve seen quite a few mainstream articles talking about how the scarcer sex has more bargaining power. They always discuss the greater numbers of women on college campuses. I’m still waiting for them to write an article sympathizing with the plight of non college degreed men who are in surplus. Oh wait, they just wrote one about North Dakota…
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Delayed Gratification. Nothing quite like it. Especially when it comes to women. One of the few times that the phrase “the chase is better than the catch” is not applicable.
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Thin women yes, bt no runway model types. I prefer my women with a bit of flesh and nice hips.
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Agreed.
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Interesting. In my ancedotal evidence the hot girls tend to be ‘exclusive’ for about as long as that relationship lasts (a month) and are onto a new guy.
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I was married to a fat slut for a couple years. She had a big rack but it wasn’t worth it. Really wish I didn’t still have to support her so generously for the rest of my days. Gotta love Canada, land where the fat sluts have the full force of the law behind them. If she were to marry the man she’s now living with, my alimony would not automatically stop, as I would have to bring a court action forward and ask the court to end the alimony. Of course, I’d still have to pay her for the several months it took until the court date, money I’d never get back. I don’t expect she will marry him, as that would mean an eventual end to the $800+ tax-free that she and her “man” now collect from me while I live with my mother.
(BTW I really love the blog JB, long-time reader and recent subscriber, but first-time commenter. You have a wonderful blunt way about you that I find very amusing)
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Yeah. Or an article about the plight of men in the military. Who has it worse? A young woman on a college campus that’s 60% female; or a young man in the military where the population is 95% male? Those are the actual stats from both the military population, and the university I went to btw.
You see a lot of marriages that turn into train wrecks in the military. An 18 year old guy marrying some 43 year old divorcee with 3 kids that aren’t his. It has everything to do with the shortage of women, and the extra benefits that both you and your spouse get when you tie the knot. It goes without saying that things usually end up pretty bad for the guys.
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“Instead of having to compete with young, thin women who prefer relationships over hook-ups, older women can corner the dating market by making sure men have no options in the younger pool. And younger men go for it in droves, because hey, fat sluts!”
You’re assuming that younger men actually want relationships. LOL! At best most young guys want a situation that allows them to have a girlfriend, and to be able to bang everything else with two legs as well. There are attractive sluts, but; there is also more intense competition for them. Obviously. That shouldn’t be too big of a deal. Make sure you’re appealing to women yourself, learn the game, and play the numbers.
Women have the upper hand in the dating market when: They are more attractive then their cohort, and there are more men then women. Then they have more power. That means they can demand more commitment, and make men cater to them. When they don’t the opposite is true.
Luckily for me I live in a town that has a large university that skews female. That means there are a larger number of attractive women, and there are more women then men. So women don’t have as much bargaining power; even ones that are cute. The fact that many of these girls are naive 18 – 22 year olds helps too!
tl;dr: The laws of supply and demand function in the dating market; just like they work in every other market.
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I had sex on the first date. Then he gave me a key to his apartment, and a drawer, and bought me a toothbrush first thing in the morning. I was that good.
But we’d known each other for several months before that…and he was only my second, and the first time I waited a year and the guy actually turned out to be a fag so he was the first straight guy I’d ever had sex with. And we’ve been married a long time now.
I know that’s an overshare, but to every rule there is an exception…
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Glad to see you are giving xojane a run for their money…16,000 likes on Facebook, sheesh! Who is taking that site seriously?? I’m pretty sure the only requirement for having material posted on their site is having a Vagina…the viewpoints are so often contradictory
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“Attractive women are not attractive by accident. They understand and respect male desire”
This.
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I’ve been reading a lot of posts here and have found some great stuff. The XOJane article sounds idiotic and I certainly don’t want my child to become a slut. I think a lot of teenage girls and young women don’t understand the consequences of their choices and need someone to talk to them. Who (other than the involved parties) decides how long is long enough to wait for sex with a partner, anyway? For one person, 6 weeks would be slutty, while 6 months is someone else’s definition of slut.
But…I don’t understand all the anger at women who are fat, or ugly, or don’t want to create the most attractive versions of themselves. Or why anyone cares if someone chooses to be easy to get into bed. What does it matter to you?
It sucks that some men have to pay alimony to an ex-wife and she can have a live in lover and get your cash. That is foul. But I don’t think it follows that NO wife should get alimony. Situations vary. And not all women are the same, whether attractive or not.
And…in reading around the manosphere, I’m pretty disgusted with some of the men out there who want to bed as many hot women as possible no matter the lies and misrepresentations needed. I’m sure there are women who would fuck you without being lied to. Well, on second thought, maybe not. So then there aren’t enough sluts perhaps?
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There actually isn’t some dark conspiracy of females on this as it be explained by something much much older. The woman who wrote that being a slut is “FUN!!” really means it. And she’ll *keep* saying it in desperate hope that someday she herself will really believe it and those dark nights crying alone in her bedroom will stop. Women being pack animals the logic goes that if they can get enough others to believe it, value it, and turn what has always been a mark of shame into something good or at least harmless then MAYBE the dark creature she invited into her soul will lose it’s hold.
Why does satan seek company? Would he say that ruling in hell is really better if he was forced to tell the truth? Being a slut is a decision that once made can’t be undone and women loathe responsibility. Of course places like XO will try to make a pig into a princess because being pigs themselves the only way to stop their pain is the alter reality and they’ll drag as many down into the pit as they can in order to do this. And we gave these creatures the vote?
Now you know why in ancient cultures female virginity was jealously guarded and kept under tight control by men. Letting women control it leads to single mother and/or cat lady inc. Critical mass has been reached with this, the future will be awfully bleak.
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What if a guy is super uncool by societies standards and makes little money (not meaning to sound shallow but people are shallow) and that’s the best he can do and those are the women he has more in common with? People have to go with people in their league and on their level sorry to say, male or female. Being a slightly fat, shapeless female myself I have to say that I know my limits. Attractive and well-off men will often use less attractive women in the bedroom but they won’t take them home to Mum and Dad. Being used in the bedroom only makes women unhappy. You just have to learn to use what you have with whoever truly appreciates it and that does not mean sleeping around. Sadly many women still think that sex equates to love and they end up feeling used. It’s often something that girls have to learn the hard way these days because of the way we are conditioned. There is also the issue of people going for those that are not on their level. I’m more attracted to men who I feel are in my league anyway. It wouldn’t feel right if I was with someone who seemed perfect and couldn’t find some common ground with me. I tend to go for the nerdy type who isn’t too great with women. I personally find these men have a lot more in common with me than the latter.
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Made me think of an article I found the other day defending physically beautiful women. Not a common perspective but a clever one.
Wrath of the Rotund
by Guy Somerset
http://takimag.com/article/wrath_of_the_rotund_guy_somerset#axzz2LGfwPnv2
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Two articles a little more than a year apart, the same author:
YEP, I’M A SLUT – “Check out this article celebrating sluts in XOJane.”
I’M TURNING 30 AND I’M HAVING MY FIRST SOBER BIRTHDAY PARTY EVER (AND I’M A LITTLE SCARED)
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