So here’s some research out of the University of British Columbia in Canada that says girls who grow up with kitchen bitches fathers who do housework are more likely to choose a career over their families well-being.
That’s a nice one-two punch, isn’t it?
Slagging women who make their children a priority and simultaneously blaming men! Quite frankly, this whole “men are to blame for everything” shtick is getting boring. Let’s assume for one second, JUST ONE GODDAMN FUCKING SECOND, that women are rational, thinking, intelligent creatures who consider their options and make choices based on what is best for themselves, their children, their husbands, their communities and their culture.
Can we do that, feminism? Can we act like women are ADULTS, capable of making decisions outside some framework of oppression and victimization? It boggles my mind that any woman, anywhere, would ever call herself a feminist when it so clearly requires that she surrender her basic humanity and lie down to be steamrolled by some imaginary patriarchy.
The radical notion that women are children incapable of making any rational, thoughtful intelligent decisions on their own
The radical notion that women are victims who can always blame someone else for their own choices
The radical notion that women are oppressed and stupid and blind and senseless
Here’s an idea: women who grow up with fathers who model masculinity have an easier time sorting through the lies that feminist culture preaches. When girls grow up seeing men act like men and women act like women, they reject the idea that we are completely and utterly interchangeable and that the needs of children don’t matter.
Women who grow up seeing dependence modeled don’t have a problem accepting that depending on a man when one has small children is not a deep threat to their own existence because they have the lived proof that MEN ARE NOT EVIL OPPRESSORS.
The idea that men deliberately designed a system to hurt the women they love the most in the world: their mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, nieces, wives
Yeah, that sounds plausible.
There was no patriarchy. Aristocracy and patriarchy are not the same thing. The rich want to hang on to their wealth and privilege and are willing to throw millions of poor people under the haywagon to do so, yes. Absolutely. The rich continue to sacrifice the poor for their own comfort, but rich WOMEN are just as willing to do that as rich MEN.
Hello, Marissa Mayer, building a nursery in her office so she can spend at least a few minutes a day with her baby while forcing all of Yahoo’s remote workers to drop their kids off at daycare and get their asses in to the office.
It’s no coincidence that Mayer rejects the label feminist, because she isn’t one. She’s a modern day aristocrat, with the wealth and power and privilege and opportunity to take care of her own family while sacrificing the families of her minions.
Big fucking surprise there.
Who is oppressing all the mommies at Yahoo? Oh yeah, that would be ANOTHER WOMAN.
So much for the patriarchy.
Let’s take a look for a second, shall we, at who all these stay at home mothers are. The poor saps who grew up with a Daddy who took out the garbage and earned the family’s income rather than let his wife shackle him to the dishwasher.
The first thing we need to unpack is the assertion that most mothers of young children are working fulltime. They are not. From the 2011 US Census, we can see that the labor force participation rate for women with children under the age of six is 68%, but that participation rate does not distinguish between full and part time work. Only two thirds of that cohort work full time, which means that 45% of mothers with kids under six are working fulltime.
Less than half.
And are they working the hours they would prefer? Nope. 62% of working mothers would prefer part time.
And look at this: 74% of working mothers would rather not work outside the home at all!
Lisa Belkin created a stir with her Opt-Out Revolution piece in the New York Times, explaining how all the high-powered career ladies from elite schools had babies and oops! They fell in love with them, and to hell with the job.
Because those ladies are all ignorant fucks, incapable of making intelligent choices that maximize the welfare of their whole families, right? You see, as long as smart ladies run the feminist gauntlet, get super prestigious qualifications and use those qualifications to earn cold hard cash, they are smart, capable women worthy of the utmost respect and adulation. But the second they decide that their husbands and families are deserving of their intelligence, oh well then they’re just stupid mules who have fallen under the spell of the patriarchy and they are betraying womankind with their refusal to work for other people.
True story: Mr. JB’s boss has a daughter who is fully and completely trained as an ENT (ear, nose, throat) surgeon. She has spent hundreds of thousands of dollars, both her own and the state’s money, acquiring this training and now that she is done, what does she want to do?
Have babies and stay home.
And that is exactly what she plans to do. What a clever use of our collective resources. Training a woman to be a surgeon so she can stay at home with her children. LadyDoc wishes she had NOT gone into medicine, now that she is older and wiser and understands what it is she really wants out of life. She may never work as a surgeon. She bought the lie, hook, line and sinker, that she would care about money and prestige and power and her labor market value.
She does not care. She cares about her children, her husband, her family. Now that her parents are growing older, she cares deeply about them, too.
The idea that women who are at work are intelligent, confident, capable human beings worthy of respect and admiration, while women who are at home are brainwashed idiots incapable of determining the course of their own lives pisses me off something fierce, for obvious reasons.
But what really irritates the shit out of me is the idea that it’s somehow men’s fault I’m a stay at home wife and mother. If I’m going to be stupid, at least let ME be stupid. If I’m going to branded an idiot for loving my husband and children more than a cubicle, then at least let ME be the idiot.
It’s true that men are really good at accomplishing things. But you know, I’d like the privilege of owning my own shit, the good and the bad. If you’re gonna do research to show why I’m such a moron to be at home, at least pay me the respect of treating my decision as if it were MY DECISION.
Feminists can ride the Blame Train to the ends of hell, as far as I’m concerned. I’m getting off right here, at the corner of Adulthood and Accountability.
It’s a nice part of town. We’re all grown-ups here. We make our own choices, and most of them are pretty smart. And the ones that aren’t so smart? Ah well.
I can live with those, too. My decisions are still MY decisions.
I don’t need to invent a theory of universal oppression just so I have someone to blame. I already have someone to blame.
Good thing I rarely make bad decisions. Saves me a lot of trouble, really.
A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.
Lots of love,