Canada eliminates Father’s Day! My, how progressive.

27 May

Okay, it’s just one school in Canada, but mark my words, this is a harbinger of things to come. Unless we push back now.

Here’s the quick and dirty summary:  the daughter of a lesbian couple had her precious feelings hurt on Father’s Day, because she doesn’t have a father so she complained and the school responded by eliminating both Father’s Day and Mother’s Day and replaced them with Family Day.

There is so much wrong with this, it’s hard to know where to begin.

Let’s start with the idea that the child of a same sex couple doesn’t have a father or mother.  Brooklin (what a stupid name – you could at least spell it correctly) has two mommies, and no daddy.  Kindergarten biology, folks.  ALL CHILDREN HAVE TWO PARENTS.  Brooklin has a father, alright.  He has just been eliminated from Brooklin’s life.  I understand completely that Brooklin’s two mommies are uncomfortable having to answer “where’s my daddy” from their daughter, but guess what?


Too fucking bad. Brooklin’s two mommies have made choices that will have an effect on their daughter and as grown-ups, with full agency and responsibility, they have a moral responsibility to own those choices.  Tell Brooklin where her father is.  Let her know the circumstances of her conception. What are you afraid of?  Being judged?  Boo-hoo.  Cry me a river.

I have no problem with same sex couples raising children.  By all accounts they do a wonderful job.

I do have a huge problem with same sex parents deciding they don’t have to confront any uncomfortable realities about how they came to have children, and then attempting to force everyone around them to change.

And what sort of message is this sending to the children? That you never, ever have to confront unpleasant realities?   That you never have to grapple with difficult or perplexing situations?  That it’s perfectly acceptable to destroy other people’s happiness because you can’t share in it?  And to spin it out as “fairness” is pretty sickening.  All the special snowflakes, demanding the world change so they don’t have to feel “uncomfortable”.


There are many reasons children don’t have fathers in their lives in meaningful ways.  Some have never met their fathers and have only a file number from the sperm donor clinic for reference. Some have lost their fathers to illness or accident or battle.  Some have fathers who live or work on the other side of the world.  But let’s be honest: most children who have no meaningful relationship with their fathers are the product of divorce or single motherhood.  For many of those children, their fathers have been forcibly ejected from their lives by their MOTHERS, backed up by a court system that disproportionately awards custody of children to the mother.

This isn’t about children of same sex couples or children whose fathers have died.  This is about women who have deliberately taken children away from their fathers, and who don’t care to confront that reality on the one day children are encouraged to pour their love for their daddies out onto construction paper and cover it with glitter.


The defacto result of turning Mother’s Day and Father’s Day into Family Day is that mothers end up with both holidays, and never have to answer for the choices they have made.

Children whose fathers have died have suffered a grievous loss, but they can at least understand what has happened. In many cases, no one is to blame.  If Daddy died in an accident, or was lost to illness, or died in the line of duty, Father’s Day becomes a tribute and a way to help those children handle their grief.


When Daddy has been forcibly ejected by Mommy, Father’s Day becomes rife with silent accusations and confusion and a deep sense of betrayal.  Where is my daddy?  The glitter on the card suddenly takes on some sharp edges, and plenty of mommies don’t want to face the terrible harm they have done their children, usually for the most spurious of reasons.  Harm that resonates for decades.

Those who are sanguine about widespread divorce like to say that divorce is just a temporary crisis, that family members bounce back after a couple of years ready to start a fresh journey. But governments around the world, lonely aging persons, and grown children of divorce struggling with whether to care for and how to grieve their divorced parents are telling us that the results of family breakdown are far more dramatic and lasting. In death the many losses of divorce – relational, financial, and spiritual – can arise anew. The stories of younger people suggest that the consequences of divorce will be felt for decades to come.

All these grown-ups (mostly women) who are so quick to jump on the band-wagon to eliminate, effectively, ONLY Father’s Day, might want to pause for a sobering second to think about how the destruction of their family will play out in the long run.

divorce party

Google “divorce party cakes” at your peril.  You will despair.

Divorced mothers, you have taught your children there is no place for duty or honor.  There are no commitments that cannot be broken.  There are no vows that cannot be unspoken.  There are no obligations that cannot be discarded.  There are no responsibilities that cannot be shirked. If ever you are asked to deal with an uncomfortable truth, immediately demand that the truth be hidden.  If something is broken, don’t try to fix it.

Throw it away.


The chickens always come home to roost, though, don’t they?  One day these empowered divorcees will be old and in need of some practical help.  A ride to the doctor’s office.  Some help with groceries.  Just the normal, daily routines of life.  They will get harder.  Someone will have to step in, perhaps out a sense of love, and loyalty, and responsibility, and obligation and gratitude?


Who will that be?

The children, to whom not one ounce of loyalty or responsibility or obligation was ever shown?  How can women who have shredded their children’s lives expect anything less than the same willingness to discard any sense of obligation or duty?

This is really what eliminating Father’s Day is about:  women’s fear of facing the consequences of their decisions.  Women earn less money than men, typically because they have fewer skills and work fewer hours.

Divorced women are more likely to live in poverty.

Women live longer than men.

And no one can stop time.  I suspect it will be at the end of their lives that women realize, oh, oops, looks like fish do need bicycles after all.

By which point it will be way too late.  And the children who were encouraged to never, ever feel “uncomfortable” or challenged in any way will continue to do just that.  They won’t be made uncomfortable by their mother’s hour of need.

They will give exactly the number of fucks Mommy gave when she tossed Daddy out.


Oh, but don’t worry.  They’ll send Family Day cards.

With extra glitter.

You reap what you sow.

Lots of love,


47 Responses to “Canada eliminates Father’s Day! My, how progressive.”

  1. Renee May 27, 2013 at 13:17 #

    I thought it said that BOTH Father’s and Mother’s Day were cancelled….unless I missed something.


  2. judgybitch May 27, 2013 at 13:18 #

    Yes, both were cancelled, but when only the mother is in the picture, both days become hers, by default.


  3. Spaniard May 27, 2013 at 13:28 #

    It is normal because, nowadays, most dads are unknown or in jail.


  4. wtfwtf13 May 27, 2013 at 13:46 #

    Karma is a big bitch isn’t she? The picture of the girl crying over her father’s coffin is very poignant.Everyone has to die some time but he would truly rest in peace if he knew how much his daughter loved him.

    You have taught your children there is no place for duty or honor. There are no commitments that cannot be broken. There are no vows that cannot be unspoken. There are no obligations that cannot be discarded. There are no responsibilities that cannot be shirked. If ever you are asked to deal with an uncomfortable truth, immediately demand that the truth be hidden. If something is broken, don’t try to fix it.

    Throw it away.



  5. Emma May 27, 2013 at 14:01 #

    Brooklyn is an awesome fuckin name! It is my niece’s. Sure better than Emma, or Jessica or Ashley.

    There is a reality that comes along with being in a same sex relationship or a single parent household. Taking away mother’s day or father’s day is just absurd.

    What about our orphans? Family Day needs to go too!


  6. Big Bad Jim May 27, 2013 at 14:02 #

    I personally DO have a problem with gays raising children and this is one of them. Where are all the supposedly ‘rational’ queers speaking out against this?

    This is why we need to homeschool our children.

    Unless, of course, you WANT them to be leftist zombies, morally and intellectually bankrupt, and unable to handle basic critical thinking skills.


  7. judgybitch May 27, 2013 at 14:02 #

    Emma is an awesome name!


  8. Erudite Knight May 27, 2013 at 14:18 #

    The male-hating rolls on. And society continues to collapse.


  9. danny May 27, 2013 at 14:41 #

    Well JB I just had to do it, I googled divorce cakes. The one with the decapitated husband with the wife holding the head was a real charmer. To quote the great Sean Connery in one of his movies ” a little revolution now and then is a healthy thing.” People will only tolerate being stepped on for so long, look at what is happening in Great Britain. Seems like the time may be soon.


  10. baldandangry May 27, 2013 at 15:10 #

    Another brilliant post. I have a BIG problem with homosexuals raising children especially those who have artificially created offspring. Kids need a MOTHER and a FATHER plain and simple. This type of behavior is eroding the very foundation of family values and we all will suffer the consequences eventually for allowing it to continue.


  11. PPP May 27, 2013 at 15:20 #

    A few years ago, the labour government banned Christmas in public schools. Replacing it with ‘winter festival’.
    That sort of sucked. However, as we are a multi-cultural city, it was necessary to celebrate and incorporate EID and Diwali.
    I was pleasantly shocked this year, when my
    Child’s school did a nativity play. He played
    ‘Completely not willing to co-operate in this
    Bullshit Shepard number 3’. Fuck was I proud. Point being, the PCpolice can’t drown out cultural realities forever.
    I think ‘family day’ sucks, who the fucks likes their whole family all on the same day?


  12. Gem May 27, 2013 at 15:22 #

    What exactly is it you think is happening in the United Kingdom?


  13. Gem May 27, 2013 at 15:29 #

    JB is not against gay people raising children, and that’s not what this post is about. At all.


  14. princesspixiepointless May 27, 2013 at 15:55 #

    Well as far as I know, mother’s and Father’s Day is still kicking strong. If that’s what you are asking.


  15. princesspixiepointless May 27, 2013 at 15:55 #

    We celebrate everything, any excuse really.


  16. princesspixiepointless May 27, 2013 at 15:56 #

    What do you think is happening in the UK?


  17. Gem May 27, 2013 at 16:16 #

    Yes, we do celebrate everything!

    My question was in response to “People will only tolerate being stepped on for so long, look at what is happening in Great Britain.”

    I don’t know what the poster thinks is happening in the UK that is indicative of people tolerating being stepped on – or not, as may have been his/her meaning. I’m looking for clarification.


  18. danny May 27, 2013 at 16:18 #

    I keep in touch with some former members of the military in England, spent a month in the woods in England training with them and it rained most of the time but beautiful country. Trained and worked many times with para regiments and Royal Scots as well. Muslim immigrants, feminist policies and the prime minister seem the topics that keep coming up.


  19. danny May 27, 2013 at 16:20 #

    I keep in touch with some former members of the military in England, spent a month in the woods in England training with them and it rained most of the time but beautiful country. Trained and worked many times with para regiments and Royal Scots as well. Muslim immigrants, feminist policies and the prime minister seem the topics that keep coming up.


  20. princesspixiepointless May 27, 2013 at 16:40 #

    Ah, I see. Total misunderstanding. The phone doesn’t show if comments are replies or not, so I read your comment with a BNP accent.


  21. Gem May 27, 2013 at 18:31 #

    Ah. My dad was a squaddie. REME.

    Irrelevant but interesting!

    Anyway, with the exception of “muslim immigrants” in America (I hear more about Mexican immigrants), I’d say those “issues” you mention are pretty universal across the developed West. And while I love a good whine myself, I think the very fact that those are the issues of the day is actually a positive thing – we’re not whining about starvation, a communicative disease epidemic or war – leaving the media in a position where they have to scaremonger and have chosen these as the issues-du-jour.

    Britain is still more than 92% white, is only 2.1% muslim, the Prime Minister of the moment is always a target, and feminist policies generally do not gain any ground here, even if career politicians and academics manage to climb a rung or two with some occasional outrage pieces in the Guardian (the readership of which is probably the most “open” to the feminist rhetoric, and even then tends to call most of it out as BS, most of the time).

    The Daily Mail is bad for your health.

    Unless it’s this article, which was refreshingly brilliant, and of course gained feminist ire:


  22. Boo May 27, 2013 at 18:52 #

    I might be able to get worked up about this if these were real holidays to start with, but Mother’s Day was a local celebration that one person worked to get declared a national holiday less than 100 years ago, and it was soon taken over by the likes of Hallmark. Father’s Day was an afterthought brought in later to complement Mother’s Day. Somehow humanity survived for thousands and thousands of years without these fake holidays, and after they’re gone, life will continue. But I agree, Hallmark will be unhappy.


  23. judgybitch May 27, 2013 at 18:53 #

    In this case, I think it’s the thought that counts.


  24. Gem May 27, 2013 at 19:02 #

    You could say this about the brevity in human history of pretty much any modern-day celebration.


  25. Gem May 27, 2013 at 19:02 #

    I have a full head of hair, thank you very much! 🙂


  26. feeriker May 27, 2013 at 19:54 #

    In recent years, I’ve come to agree with that sentiment too. I can think of almost NO holiday celebrated in the western world, especially here in Amerika, that hasn’t lost its original significance in the minds of the body public. Almost all of them have been co-opted by commercialism and/or politics. (For example, it’s Memorial Day today in Amerika, a holiday originally established with the intent of commemorating those who lost their lives in the nation’s wars. Unfortunately, it has degenerated of late into nothing but another “worship the troops” festival, topped with a heavy dose of consumerism. But that’s for another rant elsewhere).

    In the end, I’m not sure that the term “holiday” is really appropriate for most of these events anyway. I think it does us well to remember that the word “holiday” is a corruption of the term “holy day.” It was originally used to mark days that were set aside within the Christian church as feast days for saints or in commemoration of days on which acts of significance to the faith occurred (e.g., Maundy Thursday representing the Last Supper, Good Friday the Crucifixion of Christ, Easter for the Resurrection, etc.). For events without a specifically religious significance, perhaps the term “celebration day” or “commemoration day” are more appropriate. Indeed, maybe both are appropriate, depending on the point of the day in question (Father’s Day, Mother’s Day, and Independence/Dominion Day would be best described as “celebration days,” whereas Memorial Day/Remembrance Day would be examples of “commemoration days.”)

    The above said, one could argue that both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day have both a religious and secular significance. Every established religious faith recognizes both the mother and father as absolutely essential to the nuclear family (and that the nuclear family itself is essential) and that their roles, while very different, are irreplaceable. The problem is in thinking that the popular culture will recognize this fact and that any day set aside to celebrate either one, especially Father’s Day, will remain focused on it. About this I just cannot be optimistic.


  27. baldandangry May 27, 2013 at 20:49 #

    You mean when she states “I have no problem with same sex couples raising children.”? Yeah I got that, thanks. Did you bother reading the rest of my response before dismissing my comment? Probably not.


  28. Gem May 27, 2013 at 21:08 #

    I didn’t dismiss your comment, I pointed out that JB doesn’t have an issue with gay people raising children. And I didn’t dismiss the rest, I read it. But since my not writing on every point has you offended:

    Children are shown to do VERY well with gay parents. On average, better than with straight parents. Two gay people in a loving relationship, who go on to get married and adopt children are reinforcing family values. The heterosexual people whose discarded or abused children they raise are the ones eroding family values.

    The entire premise that permitting homosexual couples to adopt or create children is bad for the children, for the couples, or for society at large is complete horse shit and has debunked by every methodologically sound study that’s been done, ever.

    The couple in the scenario addressed by this blog post are bad parents because they’re trying to change the world to suit themselves and avoid having to confront issues with their child, rather than being honest, owning their shit and explaining things to their child in a way that makes sense. It’s especially bad because they knew all along that the “where is MY daddy?” days were fast approaching. Their parenting faux pas is not grounded in their homosexuality, but in their refusal to engage with their child.


  29. baldandangry May 27, 2013 at 23:01 #

    You’re right. The fact that they are homosexual has nothing to do with the fact they chose not to explain the “where’s my daddy” situation to the child. I’m not sure how I missed that.


  30. Gem May 27, 2013 at 23:14 #

    Me either.


  31. Alex May 27, 2013 at 23:17 #

    saw this on yahoo on friday i think, decided to pass it up, probably a good move. and how the hell did this gain any traction at all?


  32. tarzanwannabe May 27, 2013 at 23:22 #

    Call it “Family Day” because of those having no father? On behalf of those with no family I demand it simply be called “Day”.


  33. judgybitch May 27, 2013 at 23:25 #

    Those of us with female genitals, including vagina, vulva and mons pubis


    That we call it mon-day


    I’ve started a trend!

    Henceforth, this day will be known as MONDAY!

    Vaginas rule!


  34. daveiz May 28, 2013 at 01:11 #

    all the little bastards at that school have a father, even the ones conceived with the aid of a turkey baster.


  35. Marlo Rocci May 28, 2013 at 01:44 #

    You see this test tube? That’s your daddy.


  36. Keanu May 28, 2013 at 04:21 #

    Now I am personally of the opinion that anyone should be able to raise kids regardless of family structure. This is constitutional. Life liberty, that the pursuit of happiness. I think raising kids falls under happiness.

    However, your rights end where others’ rights begin. By imposing a ‘family day’ the de facto family structure becomes the nontraditional family.

    It’s so goddamn natural that kids are going to ask questions about fathers on fathers’ day, mothers on mothers’ day, the easter bunny on easter, and indians on thanksgiving. This is where DIFFERENTIATION comes in and the teacher must get a little real with the class: well, yes it’s father’s day, but well little janie’s daddy died in the war, josh lives with his grandpa and grandma, and joel has two mommies.

    You’d be surprised how understanding kids can be when you get real with them. Makes for a better teacher-student relationship too.


  37. Keanu May 28, 2013 at 04:22 #

    How about Day-Day?


  38. will May 28, 2013 at 12:43 #

    This is the problem, you start by recognizing gay marriage, then they are going to want fathers day removed, then they are going to want children taught different things in sex ed, then they want other things changed too. its never ending. i have no problem with gay marriage if they could just stop at that. its the same with feminism, first they can vote, work, and not be suppressed by men (which i agree with), now they want equal pay for unequal work and preferencial treatment over men in all sorts of situations. it never ends. People are never happy


  39. Goober May 28, 2013 at 15:17 #

    Where do these people get this idea that they are owed a world that never offends them?

    Oh, right- they are taught that in school by administrators that fall all over themselves to avoid offending a hypersensitive ninny.


  40. tarzanwannabe May 28, 2013 at 15:25 #

    I’d certainly rise early for such a day.


  41. not_PC May 28, 2013 at 16:02 #

    How can you cancel something like this? Say someone makes up a holiday called Chair Day, which is the last Saturday of January, all the time and at least 10 million people celebrate it. You can’t cancel this.


  42. feeriker May 28, 2013 at 18:01 #

    Say someone makes up a holiday called Chair Day, which is the last Saturday of January

    That would be an infinitely more meaningful holiday than some of the ones we celebrate now.


  43. Liz May 29, 2013 at 14:42 #

    That divorce cake is awful. Probably served it in front of the kids. I know a person who has her cell programmed to shout ‘Asshole calling! It’s the asshole here!” whenever her ex calls…and they have two kids to hear it. Nice.

    I wonder if they have the equal but opposite equivalent with the groom on top and butchered bride laying dead at the bottom? Doubt it. That would have probably made headline news.


  44. Exfernal May 29, 2013 at 20:13 #

    They won’t be made uncomfortable by their mother’s hour of need.

    To paraphrase a certain saying: “It takes a village to take care of the elderly”. Well, as long as there are any volunteers to participate on a daily basis. A nice concept, but as unworkable in practice as the original saying it is derived from.


  45. becauseiamaboy June 1, 2013 at 13:42 #

    Reblogged this on Because I Am A Boy.


  46. jonesingaroundTracey October 25, 2013 at 03:26 #

    JB – Great post! The same crap is unfolding in Australia.y


  47. Dak March 13, 2014 at 11:25 #

    That one was a little difficult for me to process. But I got there. If I’m lucky enough to have kids, I won’t shrink away from the responsibility to tell the truth about what that means.


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