Poor, sad, lonely little sluts of the world – what are we going to do with them? All their hard work, banging random men they meet in bars, and what does it get them? Well, other than outstanding blowjob techniques, I mean. The rewards of vagina slinging are denied to the slutty ladies who have racked up 20 partners (or more!), and this is clearly a problem.
Zhana Vrangalova, a graduate student in the field of human development in the College of Human Ecology at Cornell University (hope she’s looking forward to a long career at Starbucks) asked a bunch of women if they thought they might like to be friends with a real, bona fide, the password to my pussy is PASSWORD, sluts.
Eh, no. Even other sluts don’t like sluts.
Gosh! I wonder why?
“Sexually permissive women are ostracized for being ‘easy,’ whereas men with a high number of sexual partners are viewed with a sense of accomplishment,” Vrangalova said. “What surprised us in this study is how unaccepting promiscuous women were of other promiscuous women when it came to friendships – these are the very people one would think they could turn to for support.”
She added that prior research shows that men often view promiscuous women as unsuitable for long-term romantic relationships, leaving these women outside of many social circles. “The effect is that these women are really isolated,” Vrangalova said.
Oh dear. Well this is terrible news. Nobody likes a slut. Not even other sluts. Of course, Jezebel has to jump on the bandwagon, defending sluts from all the big meanies who think sluts are disgusting, disease ridden scourges on the sexual landscape.
And true to form, they get the details of the actual study dead wrong.
Nine out of ten women surveyed listed promiscuity as a negative trait in another woman, while men were more lax about this attribute in the female profile.
Nope. Men didn’t read the women’s profiles. Only same-sex friendships were explored. #sorrysluts
Men with a higher number of sex partners favored men who had less experience, but specified that it was due to evolutionary mate-guarding.
Nope. Men with a high number of sexual partners did NOT prefer less experienced men in eight out of ten tested attributes. Men preferred less experienced men as friends on TWO attributes: mate guarding and dislike of sexuality.
Possibly because less sexually experienced friends are less likely to make a play for your girlfriend? “Mate-guarding”. Such a confusing term. So difficult to make out what that might mean. Science is hard!
Jezebel doesn’t even get the sample size correct. 751, not 721. Come on now, Barbie. You just had to READ the number. It’s not like you had to count to 751 all by yourself.
Why do I read this shit?
Here is what I find interesting about the research: it refers to prior research that indicates men do not consider sexually promiscuous women suitable long term romantic partners. And again, this is what irritates the crap out of me about writers like the Jezebel ladies or Amanda Marcotte, who will cheer loud and hard for slutty sluts slutting it up, and ignore the fact that there are consequences for women’s behaviour.
Consequences most women will not like.
I honestly have no problem with sluts. If fucking a boatload of random men is your idea of fun, have at it. It’s your life, you do as you please. What I HATE is when women who really are not the least bit slutty listen to all the lies (coming from other women) about how empowering and liberating treating your sexuality like a commodity can be.
And it’s mostly young women who believe it. They listen to their older sisters and older women in the media and then act contrary to their instincts because they do not understand THEY ARE BEING LIED TO. And none of the big-mouthed ladies will mention that, oh, yeah, along with feeling like a total piece of garbage after sex with a man whose name you barely remember, you will be socially ostracized and considered an inappropriate romantic partner.
Go ahead and wear your slutty school uniforms, little ladies. You should do whatever the hell you want, at all times, and damn the consequences!
It’s funny that Amanda uses the words “self-respect” because that is exactly what encouraging slutty behaviour in young women does NOT do. In order to respect yourself, you have to know yourself, and then go ahead and behave in a way that respects what you know. If you honestly, genuinely are capable of completely separating sex and emotion, and it’s just straight up physical pleasure for you and nothing more, then go ahead and hump away.
Biologically, that is simply not true for most women. The simple act of hugging a man causes a spike in oxytocin levels, the hormones that promote bonding. Guess what else? Oxytocin has the EXACT SAME EFFECT ON MEN. Indeed, men produce greater amounts of the love hormone than women in response to sexual activities.
It has been assumed that women have higher levels of oxytocin than men do. While the hormone estrogen does indeed make women more susceptible to increased oxytocin, studies show that men produce greater amounts of the hormone during intimate activities such as hugging, kissing and intercourse.
So Slut Culture doesn’t just lie to and about women; it lies to and about men, as well.
Sex connects humans to one another emotionally. That is a simple biological reality. Sluts violate reality by denying the emotional connection between sexual partners. This hurts women deeply, and most of them will come to regret their sluttiness.
Sluts also hurt men by acting as if men have no emotional investment in sex. Men learn to shut down their emotional connection with promiscuous women, and the effect lasts a long, long time, something sluts don’t seem to understand.
In the words of Dr. Dre, you can’t make a ho a housewife.
Now this this is one of them occasions
where the homies not doin it right
I mean he found him a hoe that he like
But you can’t make a hoe a housewife
And when it all boils down you gonna find in the end
a bitch is a bitch, but a Dogg is a man’s best friend
So what you found you a hoe that you like
But you can’t make a hoe a housewife (wife)
So why should sluts in particular dislike other sluts? Because it’s like looking in a mirror. A promiscuous woman knows that she is untrustworthy, and she knows that she is not respecting herself. When she sees another promiscuous women, she understands that such a woman will make a terrible friend.
It’s not about competition. It’s about self-reflection. Sluts don’t like what they see in the mirror.
And neither does anybody else.
Sluts: ashamed of themselves. As they should be.
Lots of love,