Sandra Bullock says “My mom raised me not to depend on a man for anything”. Oh really, Sandra? REALLY?!?!

13 Oct


I have a whole house full of dinner guests on for tonight, but when I saw this story at Jezebel today, I just had to comment.

In an interview with Express, Sandra Bullock comes across as a remarkably composed, totally kickass and inspiring woman (probably because that’s exactly what she is).

Discussing her swift divorce from former husband Jesse James, she said simply, “My mother raised me not to depend on a man for anything. I may have taken that to extremes.”

Oh, you’ve taken that to extremes have you? Let’s just take a look at that claim, shall we?

On IMDB, I found that Sandra has 43 live action feature films to her credit. 5 of them were directed by women. FIVE! The other 38 were directed by men. Yah, she’s really taking that NOT DEPENDING ON A MAN FOR HER ENTIRE FUCKING CAREER THING TO EXTREMES, isn’t she?


Here’s the list, just so you can get a sense of how many MEN made Sandra what she is, professionally, today.

Hangman – J. Christian Ingvordsen

Six Million Dollar Man – Alan J. Levi

Starting From Scratch – Brian Cooke

Who Shot Patakango – Robert Brooks

Religion, Inc. – Daniel Adams

The Preppie Murder – John Herzeld

Love Potion #9 – Dale Launer

The Vanishing – George Sluizer

When The Party’s Over – Matthew Irmas

The Thing Called Love – Peter Bogdanovich

Fire on the Amazon – Luis Llosa

Demolition Man – Marco Brambilla

Wrestling Ernest Hemingway ­– Randa Haines

Speed – Jan de Bont

Who Do I Gotta Kill?- Frank Rainone

While You Were Sleeping – Jon Turtletaub

The Net – Irwin Winkler

Two If By Sea – Bill Bennett

A Time to Kill – Joel Schumacher

In Love and War – Richard Attenborough

Speed 2 – Jan de Bont

Hope Floats – Forest Whitaker

Practical Magic – Griffin Dunne

Forces of Nature­ Bronwen Hughes

Gun Shy – Eric Blakeney

28 DaysBetty Thomas

Famous – Griffin Dunne

Miss Congeniality – Donald Petrie

Murder By Numbers – Barbet Schroder (he’s a man)

Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya SisterhoodCallie Khouri

Two Weeks Notice – Marc Lawrence

Crash – Paul Haggis

Loverboy – Kevin Bacon

Miss Congeniality 2 – John Pasquin

The Lake House – Alejandro Agresti

Infamous – Douglas McGrath

Premonition – Mennan Yapo

The Proposal Anne Fletcher

All About Steve – Phil Traill

The Blind Side – John Lee Hancock

Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close – Stephen Daldry

The Heat – Paul Fieg

Gravity – Alfonso Cuaron

You hear that guys? Pay attention now, Christian, Alan, Brian, Robert, Daniel, John, Dale, George, Matthew, Peter, Luis, Marco, Jan, Frank, Jon, Bill, Joel, Richard, Forest, Griffin, Eric, Donald, Barbet, Marc, Paul, Kevin, John, Alejandro, Douglas, Mennan, Phil, John, Stephen, Paul and Alfonso.


Oh, wait. It gets better. Sandra has some producing credits, too. Of eight films that she produced, she hired a woman to direct exactly ONE of them. All the others were men, but she never depended on them to do a fantastic job and earn her a shit ton of money, right? Sandra’s income, career, fame and general ability to take care of herself HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH MEN OR THE WORK THAT MEN DO.

Fuck off.

You’re used to reciting lines off a script, right Sandra?

Here’s what you say next time someone asks you about your ex-husband:

Sandra Bullock, Jesse James

Yeah, it looks like I ended up married to a dirt-bag, but I refuse to be one of those women who uses the behaviour of one man to paint all men as unworthy, undependable scumbags. I mean really, I picked him! It says a lot more about my own judgement than it does about men, doesn’t it?. My entire career, I have been able to depend on men – without Jan de Bont and Speed, I probably wouldn’t have a career. I’m grateful to all the men who have trusted me and hired me and depended on me to give them the performance they wanted, and in return, I depend on them. Because the truth is, all most of us want is the best, from ourselves and for one another.

If Sandra really, truly, took her refusal to depend on men to an extreme, I would think she was an idiot, but I wouldn’t begrudge her the right to limit her life in such a fashion.

Whatever. Do whatever the fuck you like.

But when her words are SO BLATANTLY CONTRADICTED BY REALITY, I have to say something.

Why, Sandy? Why would you say that? Do you not see that without men you would be slinging lattes in some coffee shop like all the other wannabe actresses unqualified to do anything other than play dress-up for a living?

It’s such bullshit. Call your husband an asshole. Go ahead. Maybe he was, maybe he wasn’t. Maybe you’re not quite the innocent little flower you pretend to be – you are an actress after all. But that doesn’t make you stupid. Or blind.

Unless willfully so.

So smarten up! Open your eyes!

speed 2

And have some gratitude for all the men who cast you in their films and gave you the life you have.

It’s the least you can do.

Lots of love,


46 Responses to “Sandra Bullock says “My mom raised me not to depend on a man for anything”. Oh really, Sandra? REALLY?!?!”

  1. mama24-7 October 13, 2013 at 18:47 #

    She also had her son circ’d by a mohel at home. So sad for the man he becomes 😦


  2. zorroprimo October 13, 2013 at 19:23 #

    Any woman who willingly and knowingly enters into marriage with a (1) foul-mouthed , tattoo-covered biker dude whose (2) first wife was a porn star clearly doesn’t care about marriage. That man had “rebel” written all over him. James Stewart he ain’t. When a man chooses the mother of his children off the set of a porno, he has little care for the welfare of his offspring.

    Bullock is a monument to the hypocrisy of Hollywood, its smarmy morals and vapid code of conduct. I’ve seen three of her movies and as soon as she married Jesse James, I completely wrote her off as One More Lying Hollywood Liberal.


  3. John October 13, 2013 at 19:24 #

    For only one film was Sandra the writer and 5 or 6 of the others were written exclusively by women. About 75% were written only by men. I suppose all the technicians were women also and the male actors were incidental extras only.


  4. Dude Where's My Freedom? October 13, 2013 at 19:43 #

    I’m also assuming that her agent is a man.


  5. Taylor October 13, 2013 at 22:17 #

    I see you didn’t get Ms. Bullock’s statement.


  6. Troy October 13, 2013 at 23:35 #

    Re: Jesse James. It now cracks me up when a woman meets up with a bad boy alpha and ends up getting burned. It was either unmitigated hypergamy or stupidity, or both, that convinced Sandra that a long term relationship with Jesse was possibility. One doesn’t have to be a brain surgeon to figure out that dating a tatted up biker dude isn’t going to end well.

    I have a question though. It seems to be a truism that bad boys like Jesse James give all ladies the gina tingles. So, how do some women manage to avoid letting their hypergamy getting the best of them and instead of getting them into these dead end relationships with felons, drug dealers, and physical abusers, they find a man with which they can a stable long-term relationship within which they can raise balanced children?


  7. RS October 13, 2013 at 23:41 #

    My husband and I went and saw “Gravity” on Friday and when we were leaving the theater I heard an older woman utter one of the dumbest comments I have ever heard in my life. As I entered the restroom I heard her turn to her companion and say “that just goes to show that female astronauts are better than male astronauts!”

    I wanted to smack her in the face.

    *Spoiler warning*

    If this woman had even bothered to actually comprehend the movie she would have immediately grasped that Bullock’s character wouldn’t have survived if the male astronaut (George Clooney) hadn’t saved her live to begin with- and then told her exactly what to do after that.

    But it just goes to show how the feminist narrative goes. Women have to be considered superior even when they’re demonstrably not.


  8. petersocal October 14, 2013 at 00:23 #

    JB doesnt let anything slip.

    Awesone Job calling out the fem bullshit where it is…




  9. Jeremy October 14, 2013 at 00:26 #

    Meh, Sandra’s a pretty face with awards. Meryl Streep she is not.

    I don’t care what Jesse James was like to be married to, he probably worked 10x harder to get where he is. He made a brand name with his own hands.


  10. feeriker October 14, 2013 at 00:30 #

    The really sad thing is that ueber-wealthy and influential hacks like Bullock can afford to bounce back from foolish hypergamous flings with bad-boy douchebags like Jesse James. Ordinary women without her means or influence can’t. Unfortunately, there are too many young women today who hsng there lives on what celebrities do, not having sense enough to realize that such people live in an alternate universe.


  11. comslave October 14, 2013 at 00:46 #

    soooo….being dependent on women is somehow different than being dependent on men or what? Or did she make these films all be herself and her co-stars were just some cgi she cooked up?


  12. Laguna Beach Fogey October 14, 2013 at 01:23 #

    I’d still bang her, though.

    Just sayin’.


  13. Feminism Is A Lie October 14, 2013 at 02:28 #

    Well, we can’t expect Hollywood stars to actually be self-aware and to be aware of the realities of the world? If you don’t tote the “girl power” line, your career will not flourish, so I guess it serves Sandra and others like her, well to be to be stupid and ignorant. See, it’s already making an impact; ignorant feminists pick it up, hail her a feminist hero and there’s your popularity, there’s the fame you crave. But thank you JB for still calling out on this bullshit because it is important that we have at least a minority who will speak the truth.


  14. jw October 14, 2013 at 05:29 #

    You certainly put men to shame. 🙂 I think you put women to shame too. You’re a legend!!! Whether people like you or not.


  15. Alex October 14, 2013 at 06:09 #

    which would be what? “my husband’s an asshole so all the men that have put me where i am are meaningless assholes as well”? she can’t claim independence from men is 95% of what she has was brought about by men


  16. Emma the Emo October 14, 2013 at 06:34 #

    What a hamstery thing to say.


  17. Nicky October 14, 2013 at 07:27 #

    For once, I disagree with you. ‘I don’t depend on A man’ is not at all the same thing as ‘I don’t depend on men’. People need other people. That’s a given, unless you live as a hermit in the middle of nowhere (which is bloody tempting sometimes!) But to choose to become dependent on ONE person is not necessary. I suspect that’s what she means. Although, having said that, getting married in the first place indicates a willingness to depend on one person for romantic love/sex etc. So she’s talking bollocks anyway.


  18. Clover October 14, 2013 at 09:12 #

    Troy, it’s pretty simple. Not all women are completely controlled by arousal. Only those who are stupid or have nothing better to do will follow a random urge to chase a man who catches their interest. I’m sure the same is true for married men in the company of pretty young women – they might be interested, but it’s usually not worth the hassle/risk to actively pursue one.
    Also, for the record, there are plenty of women who just don’t find that a turn-on at all. I don’t think I’ve ever found a man attractive if he doesn’t usually wear shirts, and tattoos are disgusting to me. Some women are able to see that in the long run, a man who is intelligent and hardworking is worth emotional investment in a way an unwashed dopehead probably isn’t. As you said, it doesn’t take a brain surgeon to work out which is the better option.


  19. Exfernal October 14, 2013 at 10:06 #

    In unrelated news, since when Margaret Thatcher has been identifying herself as a feminist? If not, then why is the feminist collective trying to co-opt her posthumously? Symptomatic, isn’t it? Rewriting history… pardon, “herstory” or perhaps more accurately, “fem-story”.


  20. Laurentiu Lungu October 14, 2013 at 12:05 #

    Have you forget about the hundreds of millions of men worldwide looking at her movies and characters?
    Hundreds of millions paying a ticket for them and their girlfriends or wives or daughters and making her rich?
    She has talent, she had chance and now she’s stubbing her public!?
    That’s not smart!
    That’s disrespect!


  21. troy October 14, 2013 at 13:46 #



  22. bree October 14, 2013 at 13:53 #

    Please look up the word “feminism” in a dictionary. Any dictionary (except Urban Dictionary).


  23. bree October 14, 2013 at 13:58 #

    Thank you. I’m glad to see someone can read. She’s claiming not to be dependant on a man solely by virtue of his being a man. That’s a smart move, whether you’re male or female, as relationships often breakdown.


  24. judgybitch October 14, 2013 at 14:00 #

    Right. Because we all know feminists ALWAYS practice what they preach.


  25. Jennifer October 14, 2013 at 14:39 #

    Hi, Troy. I can only speak for myself, but bad boys have never given me the tingles. Maybe it’s because I have a great dad, maybe it’s because I’ve always been one for introspection- probably a combination.
    I’ve always wondered why some women find dudes that are very obviously NOT a good choice so attractive- my best guess is that they are mistaking “bad boy” for “man who is aggressive, determined, and take-charge”. What separates me from those other women is probably that I knew what I wanted, and also knew what men were like who embodied those things. Plus a good healthy helping of making myself someone who those men would want.


  26. Goober October 14, 2013 at 15:03 #

    This just in:

    Serial adulterers make untrustworthy, adulterous husbands!

    More at eleven.

    She was right never to rely on this man. He is, if absolutely nothing else, unreliable.

    The fact that she is casting this man-child as representative of all of mankind – untrustworthy, unreliable, and so forth – really causes me to lose respect for her.

    Her electricity reliably works, because men reliably work to provide it. There is reliably gasoline at the pumps (also supplied by men) to fuel her limousine that shuttles her to her private jet, which is reliably piloted by a man. On the way there, she drives on roads reliably maintained by men, in a car designed and built by a man, to fly on the jet, which was also designed and built by men.

    Once she’s in the sky, her life rests not only in the hands of the man at the controls, but in the abilities of the men at air traffic control. She will land on a runway that was built strong and sturdy by men. When she gets to where she’s going, she’ll stay in a hotel built by men (once again, using electricity and phone service while there that is provided by men), acting on cameras built and designed by men, which will air in theaters built by men, and on DVD players invented by men.

    If it weren’t for men, and the inventions and advances of men, she’d still be making her clothes from tanned animal hides, cured with the brain of that same animal.

    Oh, wait, no she wouldn’t, because it would have been men that killed the animal in the first place.

    She doesn’t rely on men?

    Pshhh. As if.


  27. RS October 14, 2013 at 15:38 #

    I hardly need to. I’ve been marinating in the culture for over 40 years. But it doesn’t really matter since the definition changes to suit whomever is declaring themselves a “strong, independent woman” at any given moment.


  28. Master Beta October 14, 2013 at 16:15 #

    Well, that’s easy for a beautiful millionaire celebrity to say. Well done her.


  29. LostSailor October 14, 2013 at 16:25 #

    A woman who is unable to depend on a man is, in my estimation, undependable. And poor relationship material. Relationships, by definition, involve some form of interdependency. If you don’t need me, I don’t want you…


  30. LostSailor October 14, 2013 at 16:26 #

    But more important, JB: What’s for dinner…?


  31. Troy October 14, 2013 at 18:35 #

    I’d be willing to bet having a good father would be a large part of it. How could it not be? A father is the first man in every young woman’s life.

    Thanks for the response.


  32. Modern Drummer October 14, 2013 at 18:46 #

    She is perfectly capable of f**king her life up with or without a man


  33. Taylor October 14, 2013 at 20:16 #

    Show me where she said she hates men? Please show me where she said that? If you cannot understand her statement then something is wrong with you.


  34. judgybitch October 14, 2013 at 20:20 #

    “My mom raised me to never depend on a man for anything”.

    Because that demonstrates loves and respect and affection and care?

    Are you stupid?

    You don’t depend on people who are unreliable, unstable assholes.

    You don’t call people you love and respect unreliable assholes.


  35. B October 14, 2013 at 21:59 #

    Agreed. I never had any interest in the “bad boy” and I have my amazing father to thank for that.

    For women who say they don’t need a man to depend on better get to work!

    She better get to work building her own road, her own car, her own home…I can go on and on.

    that’s the thing most women don’t realize.

    weather they like it or not, they’ re depending on men. 100% Dependent.

    It’s not a bad thing. I depend on my father, I depend on my husband, I depend on all those hard working men out there who make society function. (and I appreciate you guys too!)


  36. Spiralina October 14, 2013 at 23:34 #

    We have parents who teach us from an early age how to keep our legs closed, keep a lid on our hypergamy, and how to select men for their long-term value (morals, character etc) rather than their short-term value (alpha thrills).

    There’s no substitute for good parenting.


  37. A♠ October 15, 2013 at 00:01 #

    While I agree with the spirit of the post, no doubt, your analysis is based on a (mostly) false premise.

    Hollywood relies on Casting Directors to choose who appears in a film, more often than not, and the job is almost exclusively female.

    “Some casting directors build an impressive career working on numerous Hollywood productions, such as Mary Jo Slater, Mary Selway, Lynn Stalmaster, April Webster, John Desiderata, Tammara Billik, Marci Liroff, John Lyons, Bill Dance, Avy Kaufman, and Mindy Marin.” – Wikipedia

    Side note: This is, I believe, why we haven’t had many Truly beautiful stars since the 1970’s.

    And an ever increasing number of actresses are more masculine-looking than they are feminine.


  38. reyeko October 15, 2013 at 00:19 #

    I seem to remember her playing back up to a lot of men more famous than her which made her famous. Sylvester Stallone, Wesley Snipes, Tom Cruise, Will Smith, etc….


  39. Alex October 15, 2013 at 06:16 #

    where did i say that? you don’t have to hate someone to call them an asshole


  40. kaanman36 October 15, 2013 at 14:28 #

    I took her quote in an entirely different way than you did. I haven’t read the whole article, but here is the quote we got:

    “My mother raised me not to depend on a man for anything. I may have taken that to extremes.”

    She made that comment when talking about her divorce from Jesse James. They way I read it, it sounded like she was acknowledging that her divorce happened because she took the “not depending on a man for anything” to an extreme.

    I could be wrong of course, but that is how I comprehended her quote.


  41. Memphis October 15, 2013 at 21:12 #

    But SHE was the one that would make that bad boy into a good husband. Because her vagina is magical.


  42. Memphis October 15, 2013 at 21:27 #

    I only dated wild/bad boys. And lots of them. Fortunately, when it was time to stop all that nonsense, I was able to snag a stable good guy (who apparently overlooked the fact that I was a slut). There’s a time and place for everything and ain’t nobody got time for little boys. Grown women want grown men. And smart girls learn really fast that a good man can “tingle” with the best of them- especially when she’s ovulating.


  43. Micha Elyi October 16, 2013 at 23:06 #

    My husband and I went and saw “Gravity” on Friday and when we were leaving the theater I heard an older woman utter one of the dumbest comments I have ever heard… “that just goes to show that female astronauts are better than male astronauts!”

    Yeah, that was certainly an ignorant comment she made. I used to be amazed by such examples of feminists believing that a fictional story somehow proves some feminist belief or other. I’ve encountered that in the books and magazines they write and out of their mouths. I’m amazed no longer. I’m dead to it. I’ve reached acceptance. I accept that feminists are narcissistic irrational magical thinkers and that’s all they are.


  44. Micha Elyi October 16, 2013 at 23:10 #

    Sandra Bullock built her career on jep* movies and Gravity is 120 minutes of jep.

    *Female in jeopardy.


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