Let me show you, point by point, just how dogmatic and utterly devoid of reason or thought Jessica Valenti really is.

21 Aug



There is invisible rape all over. Yes, that really is the title of Jessica’s new piece in the Guardian. Forget stare rape, switch rape or word rape – it’s now invisible rape.


Good fucking grief. Sadly, this is the high point of her “analysis”.  Let’s begin: trigger warning: I will be oppressing readers with facts. Sorry about that.


As the school year starts up again this month, so will university orientations with ramped-up trainings on sexual assault prevention – followed, I’m sure, by a semester of underreported attacks, inevitable administrative mishandlings and student-led lawsuits.



Valenti, as per her usual journalistic standards of integrity, offers no citations for any assertions, but she is inadvertently hitting on  some facts she won’t be too thrilled about. Attacks will be underreported? Most likely, particularly when the attacks come from women and are directed against men. Look at this charming little piece in Thought Catalog in which all three women engage in behaviors that legally constitute sexual assault, and nary an eyebrow is raised. Invisible assault? It appears to be when women assault men, and the world spectacularly fails to notice anything at all is amiss.


Administrative mishandlings? Oh you bet your ass on that one, toots. The denial of due process in campus rape tribunals will come back to bite the administration in the ass and hard. It already is. Student-led lawsuits against the schools? You bet your last fucking dollar on that one, and it looks like the universities will be paying out ample dollars to men wrongly accused and punished for sexual assaults that happened only in the minds of ideologically hidebound administrators and accusers.

Thanks to the increased American focus on campus rapes by activists, the media and even the White House, people will undoubtedly be paying attention this school year. And I’m glad for that.


I’m glad too. It’s time to end the epidemic of emotionally crippled toddler/women holding men culpable for their own shitty decisions made while hammered, and let’s keep in mind that alcohol doesn’t make you do things you don’t want to do – it just makes you care less about the consequences. Feminists have schooled women for 40 years that consequences are something men face, but that fairytale is over. Women will face the consequences of their choices. They can scream all they want. The consequences are now measured in punitive damages against schools who are abusing men at the behest of immature, emotionally crippled women and when the money runs out, so will the sympathy. The schools will go after the women who made the false accusations and so they should. Can’t happen soon enough.


But I hope that, as we shake our heads in shame and frustration over student assaults, we don’t forget the scourge of rape that has infiltrated every corner of our country – not just the places that house college campuses.


Oh come on now Jessica, why so shy? Are you deliberately obfuscating? Stealthily hiding just what you mean by “student assaults”. We know how you feel about male victims of sexual assault – how you feel about male victims of any kind. You were very clear about that not so long ago.




I’d respect you more if you showed some courage for your convictions. You don’t give a fuck about women who assault men (you probably kind of like it) and you sure as fuck don’t care about men who are assaulted.  You are talking about women, and only women, because feminism cares about everybody, amirite?


In Rochester, New York, a 21-year-old man is facing state and federal charges for allegedly raping a 14-year-old girl and then posting a video of the attack to Facebook. The teeanger was unconcious while one man allegedly raped her and another filmed.


Ooh cherry picking are we? How about these then?

Women abusing the elderly






A Connecticut man has been arraigned after authorities say he kidnapped, raped and strangled the 19-year-old woman he was dating. A 28-year-old teacher in Oklahoma has been charged with raping her 15-year-old student. A man in Kentucky has been indicted on charges that he raped a child under 12 years old.

Women abusing/killing children





The Waupaca County police in Wisconsin are looking for a man they say tried to rape a teenager who accepted a ride home, and a wrestling coach in Eden, New York pleaded guilty to raping two teen girls at the school where he worked.

Women abusing/killing men






Oh, and, for a bit of context: All of this has happened in the last 48 hours.

So did this:



These are just the stories we know about – cases where victims have come forward and the local media is paying attention. But such cases represent just a small percentage of the attacks that happen every day – every two minutes, in fact – across the United States. These largely invisible sexual assaults – the ones we never hear about – are the ones where the most vulnerable are victims: homeless women, prisoners, the mentally ill, the disabled, children, sex workers and those addicted to drugs and alcohol. This is true not just in the US, but globally – where the most disadvantaged are not only the most likely to be attacked, but the least likely to be helped.

Every two minutes? Citation please. Odd how women are under such relentless, continuous attack around the world, yet still outlive men in EVERY SINGLE COUNTRY IN THE WORLD.


life expectancy



And even more odd that Valenti either seems to not know or not care that most homeless are men, most disabled are men, most prisoners are men. Oh wait, no, I know. It’s the compassion thing again.





Do we care less about these victims? Where are their profiles? Where is their White House task force?


Oh you hypocritical bitch. When these victims are mentioned and they happen to be men, you don a t-shirt and a shit eating grin and laugh about it, and you wonder what has happened to a world that cares about people? You happened, you wretched, ignorant person.


I’m working on a fix for that.


I do understand why the national conversation about rape is so focused on campus assaults. And it’s certainly not as if the campus rape problem is going away – college administrations are still failing survivors, and victim-blaming still abounds. But part of the reason the issue of student sexual assault has captured our attention – in addition to the tireless work by young activists – is that we see these victims as more deserving of sympathy, and because they more closely resemble the people in the media who are making editorial decisions, and their friends and family.


Again, why don’t you just come out and state it blatantly – you only care about women. You are the one who only sees young white college women as deserving of sympathy. You are the one perpetuating the blatant lie that men are not assaulted and that women are never the perpetrators. And seriously, honey? Your days of having something in common with young college girls have come and gone. Deal with it. Let it be your first moment of honesty.


When vice president Joe Biden speaks about campus rape, for example, he often talks about protecting “our daughters”. But not everybody’s daughter goes to college – and our empathy too often doesn’t extend to those on the margins.


Really?? REALLY???? For fuck’s sake. Not everyone’s daughter goes to college. Even when the sexism is in black and white, Valenti still can’t see it. Not every person assaulted is a daughter. Some of them are sons. She really can’t see past ideological blinders affixed so tightly her brain appears to be capable of nothing more than word vomit.


Maybe that’s because we think of women in college as “good”, middle-class girls deserving of attention, though research has shown that it’s often lower-income women on campuses who get attacked and later blamed for their own attacks.



Gosh you think class is a factor in who gets attacked? Do you think low-income men are under some pressures too? Like, the ones who are going to college on athletic scholarships? Trading their bodies for an education? Nothing objectifying about that, right. Lol! Who cares? Most of them are brown anyways, amirite?


Maybe it’s because we just don’t want to think too much about how some victims’ marginalization – in which we are all in some way complicit – contributed to them being victimized again: if you want to stop the rape of homeless women, for example, you need to talk about economic injustice.




And if you want to talk about homelessness, you need to talk about gender injustice – how the world cares more about women than it does about men. You Valenti, are the problem. Your hatred and callous dismissal of the suffering of men, all the while bleating over the poor wimmenz, is something you should be ashamed of – not something you Instagram with glee.


Maybe we think that, if we just take on college rape, we’ll only have to deal with administrations and (maybe) the attackers themselves. But that’s thinking too small – we have a whole world of misogyny to grapple with before we can end rape on campus or anywhere.


Before we can end rape, or any other assault, we need to talk about all the victims and ALL the assailants. And guess what? Your precious white college women are half the problem. They rape with impunity and face no consequences and that is a problem that not only needs addressing, but will be addressed. Count on it.


Yes, we have a campus rape problem. But we also have a national (and an international) rape problem. Let’s not forget that in the back-to-school rush.


What we have more than anything else is a feminist dominated media problem in which all men, always, are BAD, and all women, always are GOOD, despite literally millions of pages of evil, nasty, violent, cruel, murderous women proving that when it comes to cornering the market on depravity, women are more than up to the task. They rape, abuse, torture, kill and hate, just like some men do.


Know why?


Because they are humans, and sometimes, humans suck.


As long as feminism refuses to view women as equals, women will never BE equals. Valenti has a job for now, spewing her absurd assertions and proclamations with no supporting facts or evidence and thankfully the world seems to be growing weary of her bullshit.


I know I am. But I also take a little pleasure in her preposterous attempts at relevance. I admit it. There is some glee in watching her fail so epically. I’m not sorry, either.




Your days are numbered, Valenti. Hope you know how to make a killer  cappuccino.  You’ll look so cute in that Starbucks apron!


Lots of love,



30 Responses to “Let me show you, point by point, just how dogmatic and utterly devoid of reason or thought Jessica Valenti really is.”

  1. Jim August 21, 2014 at 16:47 #

    Well you know what they say…”Bitches be crazy”.


  2. LostSailor August 21, 2014 at 17:05 #

    the scourge of rape that has infiltrated every corner of our country

    Actually, this is just an out-and-out, pulled-from-her-ass lie. Par for the course.

    But I’m intrigued by this notion of “invisible rape.” If a woman is raped by an invisible rapist who she cannot see, how can she identify him to the authorities? Can she just pick any man to successfully accuse? I predict that Valenti’s next column will be headlined Women Attacked by Invisible Rapist Should Be Allowed to Choose Man at Random as Responsible

    Followed by Woman: “My Rapist was Invisible, And Since the Man I Accused Could Have Done It, He Should Be Convicted. Now.”

    Followed by Incubus Invasion! Invisible Demon Rapist Scourge Infiltrates Every Corner of Our Country! Wiccans Respond!

    Just watch and mark my words…


  3. The Real Peterman August 21, 2014 at 17:13 #

    If a college reports few or no rapes this year, it must be because rape is underreported, not because there is no “rape crisis.”. After all, sane and reliable people like Andrea Dworkin and Mary Daly tell us that men just love to rape, and they can’t be wrong.


  4. Master Beta August 21, 2014 at 17:22 #

    “You’ll look so cute in that Starbucks apron!”
    No she won’t
    Also: You said that women outlive men in country in the world. This is not true, and you can even see it in the graph you posted. For example, in Botswana and Zimbabwe the males live longer, and I’m pretty sure that in Quatar the males live longer, although I don’t see Qatar on that graph.


  5. judgybitch August 21, 2014 at 17:30 #




    Looks like men outlive women (as of 2011) in Qatar, but not in Botswana or Zimbabwe

    So I stand corrected. In almost all countries, women outlive men. Not sure that has any real impact on the argument. Women vastly outlive men.


  6. Shane August 21, 2014 at 19:07 #

    Y’know, I’ve started to pound back against stupid Sexual Harassment (which is just mini rape, isn’t it?) comments with loudly declaring Economic Harassment wherever I see it.

    “Buy me this…” ECONOMIC HARASSMENT!

    “Wanna go for coffee?” ECONOMIC HARASSMENT!


    Pass by a homeless guy without putting a dime in his hat. ECONOMIC HARASSMENT!

    Well, you get the point. I don’t know if it works, but I have fun doing it.


  7. David Sutton August 21, 2014 at 19:10 #

    I’m sure JV will find this article deeply hurtful. That’s okay. As your last poster shows, we bathe in Jessica Valenti’s tears.

    Another thing: with enrollment figures as widely disparate as they are, it won’t be so very long before males will refuse to enroll in colleges (at least the liberal arts, non technical kinds) at all.


  8. FuzzieWuzzie August 21, 2014 at 20:02 #

    That picture that Jessica Valenti self published on social media has to be a milestone. By taking that stance, she can only claim to represent a very narrow slice of humanity, one that has yielded to being just plain mean with no purpose.


  9. LostSailor August 21, 2014 at 20:26 #

    it won’t be so very long before males will refuse to enroll in colleges (at least the liberal arts, non technical kinds) at all.

    And they’ll be better off for it. Not only will they get better education (even if vocational) but they won’t be subject to arbitrary accusations of sexual assault that will ruin their lives…


  10. Spaniard August 21, 2014 at 21:16 #

    I would pay 100 euros for a while with Jessica. But no more.
    She is a typical Mediterranean cutie. I know this kind of woman. It is a very common type here,


  11. DrPinWV August 21, 2014 at 22:03 #

    Valenti says that in the U.S. there is a sexual “attack” every 2 minutes. Okay, let’s do some rough arithmetic:

    30 assaults per hour x 24 hr/day = 720 assaults per day
    720/day x 365 days/year = 262,800 assaults per year
    262,800 assaults / 155,000,000 females in US = 0.001695 is proportion of females assaulted per year
    0.001695 x 80 years (even though very young and very old females unlikely to be sexually assaulted) = 0.1356 is proportion of U.S. females sexually assaulted over an 80-yr lifetime

    Even with these calculations that should overestimate the lifetime chance of sexual assault, Valenti’s numbers put the lifetime chance of rape at 1 in 7, not 1 or 4 or 5.


  12. DrPinWV August 21, 2014 at 22:04 #

    Sorry, I should say the lifetime chance of assault or “attack”, not rape, is 1 in 7.


  13. Master Beta August 21, 2014 at 23:03 #

    Oh yeah.

    That’s not very many at all. Good spot.


  14. JShaft August 21, 2014 at 23:33 #

    That’s a bandwagon I’d happily jump on!

    Only problem is that I’m way too poor to have had much to do with people like that :p


  15. JShaft August 21, 2014 at 23:35 #


    We clearly do need to make more room for women in STEM fields, so that Feminists can learn maths before they spout anally-derived figures!


  16. JShaft August 21, 2014 at 23:42 #

    When compared to my anally-derived estimate (based solely on anecdotal “evidence”) that 1 in 1 men will be assaulted by the time they’ve left primary (or grade) school. Well, once again, it’s that evil Patriarchal sexim at play, I’m sure… Somehow…


  17. honordads August 22, 2014 at 01:30 #

    Clearly she grew up with her mom, who told her she was molested by her dad/uncle or something.


  18. Freelance Hobo August 22, 2014 at 02:21 #

    I’m seriously curious when all the incubi show up, there’s already a scourge of succubi going around.


  19. Freelance Hobo August 22, 2014 at 02:24 #

    Yep, because as a Man, I am nothing more than a sex beast and want to rape everything in sight that’s remotely female-shaped, and my natural instincts and upbringing are NOT to cherish, honor, and protect women, even to the risk of my own life.


  20. Freelance Hobo August 22, 2014 at 02:31 #

    I’ve yet to see greater misogyny than from feminists like Jessica Valenti.

    Yeah that’s right, I said misogyny.


  21. Alex August 22, 2014 at 03:20 #

    what do these people think of men as, robots? oh yeah, no objectification or sexism there at all, no siree. only women get to be humans fully capable of independent thought or emotion, while men just do what the programming says to. and they say men are the issue here


  22. dattehakamura August 22, 2014 at 04:27 #

    She won’t look cute.


  23. JShaft August 24, 2014 at 03:46 #

    Ghostrape… I don’t know if I have the strength to facepalm hard enough to honor that…


  24. k August 25, 2014 at 13:09 #

    JB, Is there anyway i could send you a private message, something which other feminists cannot see.


  25. judgybitch August 25, 2014 at 13:37 #



  26. 92redrevolver August 27, 2014 at 18:49 #

    You see, I really did like my feminist friends as people. They weren’t wholly bad, just like the rest of us aren’t. But they kind of sucked sometimes, particularly in how they viewed themselves in relation to others, which again, that happens, we’re all capable of that. But once I started questioning, criticising and refusing to be involved with their little marches and protests which ignored men and painted a pretty shitty and incomplete picture of “female” (really, human) oppression, my respect for them as people completely went out of the window. They treated me differently, patronised me, undermined my opinions and refused to listen to what I had to say because I didn’t label myself a feminist. They would also call other female friends feminists, despite on the down low, them telling me they kind of agreed with my stance on gender equality.

    They were no longer my friends, not just because they disagreed, but EXACTLY because of your last paragraph. Feminists WON’T treat women as equals, because equality lies part in what rewards you get for existing and playing a part in society, but playing a part in society means you have responsibility too.


  27. Beet December 9, 2014 at 06:48 #

    Camille Paglia said it greatly: “The price of women’s modern freedoms is personal responsibility for vigilance and self-defense.” This is what some feminazis should assume.



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