New article is up at Thought Catalog in which I explain how California thinks all the sex I have ever had has been rape.
Hint: it’s wasn’t, and California is fucking nuts.
Under the California standards of consent, it turns out that I have never even once had sex that was not legally rape. I have never asked for consent from a partner, nor has any partner ever asked for my consent, and I’m kind of glad, because “may I put my penis in your vagina now” is kind of a libido killer for me.
Enjoy!
Lots of Love,
JB
judgybitch 
As I said elsewhere: This nonsense has to stop. Men are being driven to thoughts of suicide after their lives have been obliterated by false allegations.
NO ONE should be expelled or, in the case of the workplace, fired without proof. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
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Uhhhh .. sigh .. I guess saying I do (re: consent via marriage) isn’t good enough.
The arguement that married men are rapist denies earlier precident in law.
Also, if a woman doesn’t consent .. there are remidies for that already on the books.
How can anyone be fooled by this .. oh wait .. I know the answer to this .. lol
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I don’t think the 1:20 figure is even remotely close to the truth. And the 1:4 figure is pure folly.
2012 FBI stats for forcible rape: A woman has a 99.9471% chance of NOT being raped in a year (52.9:100,000)
Over a 50-year time period, the figure is 97.4%.
A four-year college student: A 99.8% chance of NOT being raped.
Like you said, Judgy: Follow the money.
I’m going to go now and eye-rape some dinner.
Great article.
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I’ve never been raped, either. I don’t understand all the emphasis on needing to keep asking, “Can I kiss you?” or “Can I do this?” because all the men I’ve ever dated have been pretty adept at reading body language, and no one has ever tried to push me into anything.
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This is simply appalling and a really hurtful way of portraying men.
Something that women may not understand however, is that rape is a crime against the state, so rape can be prosecuted with or without your consent. A couple of women have actually gone to jail for refusing to cooperate with a rape prosecution. That is a trick that has been used against children for some time, the threat of jail if they don’t testify to a rape that may or may not have happened. So this alleged quest for women’s bodily autonomy and sexual empowerment can easily become a weapon that backfires. You do not own your own sexuality, the state now does.
In my state we’ve had a couple of wrongful prosecutions, where children where manipulated, pressured to testify against fathers in rape cases. Thomas Kennedy is one in the news recently who has just been released from prison, reunited with his daughter, and awarded some money for the time he spent in prison.
Children of course, are much easier for the system to intimidate, confuse, and manipulate, but many so called adult women really aren’t that much more difficult to coerce, especially if they have already been taught sexual confusion by a feminist agenda.
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They are trying to make us go extinct by making sex awful.
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When you flirt with non professional single women you should never ask: “may I kiss you?”. Just try.
But when you flirt with married women (to someone else) or professionals you should always ask. It is the protocol.
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It’s clear the real problem on colleges isn’t sex, but alcohol. Women obviously can’t handle their booze, so for their protection, the next logical step is to ban all consumption of alcohol on campus, and anyone caught drinking, male or female–even teachers–should be expelled.
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That this legislation got signed into law is beyond credible. All the parties are fully aware that it is unconstitutionally vague. The weakness is in the nature of consent. Nobody has any idea what form it will take.
This will not pass judicial review and all the legislators have won brownie points with feminists for passing a law that they know must be overturned.
Am I getting cynical?
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LOL, you may be correct ;-D
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The 1:20 figure is likely only true when taking into account the expanded definition of rape. These feminists are just pieces of shit, expending all this effort just to fuck up mens lives and convince silly women that their mistakes are in fact mens fault. That our society falls for it is absolutely disgusting, and proof of the idiocy that follows forty years of female-run education
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1.) that makes too much sense.
2.) it wouldn’t work. weed is illegal and is being smoked on every campus in the country.
I’d say, maybe teach women to drink responsibly, but that would obviously be impugning upon their freedom. The freedom to be an idiot. It may not be in the constitution, but it is the most liberally taken freedom in the country
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Wow, I didn’t realize how rapey I was before turning to celibacy. I thought I was a smooth talker, but apparently I was just a serial rapist.
Once again, feminists and Big Daddy Guvmint take something beautiful (sex, not rape) and twist and regulate it to the point of horrible, bland and unrealistic. It’s just retarded.
I am revolted that I have to say this, but if we keep allowing this shit to happen, something’s gonna give, and these pampered bitches are going to learn what rape really is as they wander ’empowered’ through a post-apocalyptic landscape
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All my drunk are happy.
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@Zane
No.
If women cannot handle the booze, they should not be allowed to drink.
As a proud owner of a penis, I am still responsible for my actions no matter how intoxicated, so therefore I should have the privilege to indulge because unlike those half children I can be trusted with that responsibility or at least held accountable.
If you take feminisms arguments seriously and draw the inevitable conclusions, we should reduce the legal status of women to that of livestock.
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Yes. Exactly.
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Feminists cannot handle alcohol due to the lack of an enzyme which metabolize the alcohol: catalase. Just like the Asian people or Native Americans.
Non feminist women they have their catalase in perfect state. Is when a woman becomes a feminist when they suffer a mutation in their metabolism and the catalase is gone (together with billions of brain cells)
Feminist should try coke, instead. It makes them horny but they are very alert at the same time. So they never lose their mind.
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Susan, I thought you only dated one man in your life: your husband.
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“Rape is a crime against the state”
So does that mean the state owns women’s bodies?
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Spaniard, I didn’t meet my husband till I was in my thirties, so he wasn’t the first guy I dated. But he’s the only one I date now, of course. 🙂
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That is certainly the direction we are going. So much for bodily autonomy and empowerment. Feminists seem to be replacing what they claimed was the oppression of men with the oppression of the state.
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Then, it means you had relationships before you meet hubby.
Therefore, probably you think that all that “slut shaming” is a total crap. Same I do.
It is one of the things from the manosphere I don´t agree at all.
And I think too that all that male bitching about the “cock carousel” is just frustration. These men bitch about the carousel just because they have never been part of it.
As a man, I think that once you have been part of the carousel (not necessarily every weekend) but sometimes, since your teens, you cannot bitch about it cuz you are a beneficiary of it.
So… sex positive feminism is cool.
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Even if they DID try to “push” you into things you didn’t want to do, the thing is, all you’ve got to do is say “no.” The thing that’s so funny to me is that it would be so easy to fix rape laws. If you are capable of resisting, you MUST resist (say NO at a minimum), or it is not rape. If you are incapable of resisting (you’re incapacitated in some manner), then it is rape.
You hear it so often – women say “I didn’t want to say “no” because I was afraid!”
Afraid of what? That he’d beat you up? As if that is really going to happen, but seriously – you’d rather be raped than beaten up? That’s like hauling your car to the crusher because you’e afraid someone will door ding you in the parking lot. Besides, what kind of guys are you going to rooms with, alone, anyway?
Afraid that he’d ostracize you socially? You really think that’s worth being raped?
Afraid he’d disapprove? Seriously, what the fuck are you so afraid of? I don’t get it.
In my opinion, every case of “I let him have sex with me without resisting or saying “no” because I was afraid!” is a case of retro-active regret and withdrawal of consent after the fact, and is not rape. That’s the only way it makes any sense whatsoever. It’s very simple – the word is “no.” If you say it, and he doesn’t listen, you were raped. If you don’t say it, and “go along with it” then what you have is a bad decision, made because you’d rather sleep with the guy than face the super-minor, mostly imagined consequences of saying no – not rape.
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Maybe we should go extinct.
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“A couple of women have actually gone to jail for refusing to cooperate with a rape prosecution.” –This is so rare as to be irrelevant.
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Last news: Lena Dunham has been “raped”, too.
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Why the quotation marks? Does this mean you’re sure there was no rape? The bad thing about all this polarization between the two sides is that we have one side insisting that practically all sex is rape, and the other side insisting that there’s no such thing as date rape or campus rape.
There really are some people who get coerced into sex — meaning raped — on dates and at campus parties. And there are also some getting persuaded that anytime they’re not completely happy looking back upon a decision to have sex, it must have been rape.
I’d really like to see more down-to-earth honesty on both sides. Don’t just assume that every woman who says she was raped but chose not to prosecute was only quotation-marked “raped.”
Personally, I see no harm in just taking someone’s word for it, so long as they’re not sharing the identity of the person that they’re accusing. While I’m okay believing that you (general you) were raped if you tell me so, I’m not at all okay with automatically believing that some other individual is a rapist just because you tell me so. I’ll take your word for what you say about yourself — but I won’t just take your word for incriminating things you say about someone else, unless of course I know you well enough to trust in your honesty and integrity.
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Something which may be of interest to you, JB: http://www.themarysue.com/the-womansplainer/
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I see consitutional lawyers and criminal lawyers thinking of this with great glee, as they will probably get the law declared unconstitutional, sue the state and universities for swingeing damages, and pocket 70% of the proceeds as expenses incurred during litigation.
Follow the money works both ways.
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Read her story and then you tell me.
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Off topic
The match between a macho pig and a feminist can work perfectly and forever. For instance: Sartre-Beauvoir.
Sartre so macho pig, so MGTOW “avant la lettre”, so womanizer, so into his young femele pupils and so loyal to Beauvoir.
Beauvoir so feminist, so slut, so bisexual, so “strong and independent woman”, and so loyal to Sartre.
The clue are the 3 Ls: Loyalty, Liberty and Lascivity.
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As I’ve often noted, feminism and feminists need more rape. They have to have it. Especially on college campuses. Must.Have.More.Rape. JB is right that the funding spigot gushing cash is one reason, and not just the rape “crisis” centers, but all those women’s studies, gender studies, and now social justice studies positions. More Rape mean more employment for otherwise unemployable feminists. Hell, they might actually be forced to get a real job if there isn’t enough rape.
But the second reason is just as important. Feminism and feminists require more and more rape, especially on college campuses, to keep an impressionable group of young women in permanent victim mode. Either by making them “victims” or by keeping them in fear of being “victimized.” Feminists will create more rape so they can tell girls they “need feminism” because of all the rape. It’s a recruiting tool. So, if the rape isn’t there, feminists will manufacture it.
Feminism: a rape factory.
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Dunham, like most feminists, needs to be a victim, er, “survivor”. The “rape” she describes was drunken sex that she apparently actively participated in. But the guy was a college Republican with a mustache, so someone later told her that because she had doubts after the fact, it was rape. Duh-nam didn’t think it was rape until someone told her it was rape, so years later, it’s retroactively rape.
And that’s the problem with this law. It says that consent can be withdrawn at any time, including, apparently, months or years later. All it takes in one feminist years later saying “honey, you were raped” and Voila! Rape!
If they could package it, it would give new meaning to the term “rape kit”: Create Rape Years Later with the Feminist Approved™ Rape-Kit® (some assembly required).
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You mentioned in your thoughtcatalog post that men don’t go to university counselling services for sexual abuse. In general that’s true, but what happens when they do? http://reddfields.wordpress.com/2014/08/08/schrodingers-rapist-my-experience-with-a-womens-center/
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Feminists intention is to hurt men, but if women get in the way then they just consider that to be collateral damage.
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Feminist need more rape, in order to relax.
If they are raped several times a day they will relief stress.
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She was drunk, on coke and on xanax.
By her hand.
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Well, California has a lot of romance novels to take off the shelves….since they perpetuate “rape culture”. How many feature “enthusiastic, unambiguous and ongoing consent”?
IF the liberals and Californian law makers are going to live in the reality they think they are creating, they are going to have to accept that women fantasize about “rape”(again, according to their new definition) on a massive scale via romance novels and books etc.
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Grape Rape?
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Bravo ! , how right you are . That’s why they are promoting Homosexuality and the degradation of traditional Family at the same time .
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Many homosexuals are very pro-child and pro-family. And many traditional people are in favor of hitting children and employing other abusive disciplinary practices. I’m not saying that all traditionalists hit their kids. However, if you look into the so-called childrearing experts who still promote hitting kids, I think you’ll find that most if not all of them also promote a traditional family structure where everyone knows their place and stays in it.
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Every argument for affirmative consent policies/laws applicable to college hook-ups applies to a married couple. First, a husband has no right to sexual relations, if she consents to it good if not it is rape. Second, prior consent does not imply consent this time. She may have married you and slept with you yesterday but today is a blank slate. Third, if you and your wife have a few drinks sexual relations are out until she sobers up. A drunk person cannot consent. Husbands should count how many drinks wives have at a party to determine if it is ok to initiate sex later in the evening.
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But if you are a coke dealer, with tatoos, you can rape (actual rape) that hypothetical wife you are talking about (maybe you can find ger doing shopping in the moll with hubbiés card) you like cuz she is going to be delighted.
Then, at night, she will tell hubbie she has headache.
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And if hubbie dares to touch her she will call the cops and file “rape”.
Then, she will divorce, she will take 95%of hubbie´s money and properties and she will get the coke dealer rapist she met in the moll to her bed. The former marriage bed.
Meanwhile… hubbie is a homeless and he is drinking cheap wine under a bridge, with a bunch of homeless trying to get warm vy a litthe bunfire.
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Sorry about the erratum. I was rushing.
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Just a couple of years ago in the surrealistic Magino – Cameronian U.K. , a 29 years old young teacher got SIX YEARS IN JAIL for having a relationship with a 15 years old girl with the prospect of marriage . Meanwhile AGAIN and AGAIN Monster-“mothers” , are getting less – as “depressed” – for comitting the unthinkable : killing their own children , as a recent Monster -couple of weeks ago – got the “special” treatment , for killing all three of her children !
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I don’t understand why you’d see it as “surrealistic” for a teacher to serve a six-year sentence for committing statutory rape with a 15-year-old (or even for having an inappropriate relationship that didn’t lead to sex, for that matter). Of course, it’s absolutely horrid for any parent to murder a child, and completely goes against our natural instincts to nurture and protect our offspring, which is probably why many courts are inclined to think that anyone who would do so must have been mentally imbalanced or under great duress.
But seriously, when I was 29, I absolutely never would have thought about having a romantic relationship with a 15-year-old boy, I realize some women do indeed commit statutory rape with young boys, and they’re every bit as sick as the adult men who prey on young girls. As the mother of a 14-year-old, I’m just glad that she’s totally grossed out by the thought of anyone even a few years older taking an interest in her. A few years is no big deal after the younger person is an adult, but there are huge differences between a 14-year-old and a 19-year-old — and ginormous differences between a 15-year-old and a 29-year-old.
As a parent, I also think it’s crucial for any teacher who fantasizes about sex with my child to realize that acting on such fantasies will completely destroy their lives and careers. Of course, I’d much rather find a way to keep such individuals out of the teaching profession entirely — but developing some invasive device to read everyone’s minds and determine which adults are sickos who fantasize about sex with children and should never be allowed access to children, would go completely against my value of respecting everyone’s right to privacy — so the next best thing is to send a clear message that acting on their perverted fantasies will destroy them.
If I’d been the parent of that 15-year-old girl, six years wouldn’t have been long enough. But at least it would have allowed my daughter the chance to mature into an adult before possibly coming face-to-face with her rapist (or, if there was no sex, her perverted Romeo).
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Additional -enraged – comment : Meanwhile last summer , New Zealand’s beasty ,misandric M.P. ( ! ! ! ) Maggie Berry , wished 84 year old entertainer Rolf Harris , ” life imprisonment for touching her leg ” some decades ago ! . . On the other hand this is the price maginas and all sorts of complesant – useful idiotic male public figures pay now -again and again- for their criminal apeasement of the feminist Holocaust of the last 50 years !
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