On White Ribbon Day, help promote awareness of domestic violence as an issue that affects everyone

24 Nov

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The following article by Paul Elam, publisher of A Voice For Men is reprinted with permission.


White Ribbon Australia fraud exposed

Imagine the image of a woman, cowering in the corner, shivering, blood running from her nose, as a man, possibly just a faceless silhouette of a man, looms over her with a clenched fist.

For most people with their humanity intact, it is an image that elicits sympathy and outrage, and quite naturally so. Indeed, there are only two kinds of people in this writer’s opinion who look upon this kind of imagery with callous indifference. The first is the small percentage of people who simply have no moral compass, no sense of concern for anyone but themselves.

The other group is the one turning the human decency that deplores the victimization of the weaker by the stronger into a cash cow. That would be most domestic violence advocates.

Yes, it is all but indisputable. Profiteers have now industrialized battered women, reducing them to storefront mannequins for the sake of lining their pockets. They are not only indifferent to the suffering of the victims of intimate partner violence (IPV), but they also count on those (female-only) victims to make a living—even if they have to manufacture them. In keeping with their agenda, they also manufacture false statistics and a wholly fabricated narrative about IPV that is designed not to offer assistance or ameliorate the factors that lead to violence in the home but, in the simplest of terms, to cash in.

One of the most deplorable examples of that in existence today is the so-called “White Ribbon Campaign.” It is largely a worldwide effort to cozen money by playing on the human decency of people concerned about violence in the home. Their modus operandi is to paint a false picture of the problem, identifying its sole source as abusive men and its sole victims as helpless women. It is a calculated deception that flies in the face ofvirtually all known credible research on the issue, but it is a financial windfall because female-only victims and male-only perpetrators have proven to provide the best incentive for inspiring well-meaning people to give money.

Perhaps the worst of the worst in this worldwide consortium of con artists is the White Ribbon Campaign in Australia. That is an easy conclusion to come to with even a cursory glance at their financials, which are a matter of public record. You can see for yourself.

WRCOZ Financials

The first thing that is noticeable is that White Ribbon Australia is undergoing some pretty remarkable growth. From 2012 to 2013, the group increased their revenue by over 25%, with an additional half million dollars. It is especially impressive since more than 50% of their gross revenue ends up in the pockets of their staff.

With $1,130,402 in salaries and benefits, you can add $203,064, $416,077, and $85,565 respectively for “advertising and marketing,” “fundraising expense,” and “travel and accommodation.” You end up with a total of $1,835,108. That amounts to nothing more than raising money, paying themselves with it, but leaving enough left over to go raise more money.

With additional expenditures under informative headings like “purchases” ($58,603) and “other expenses” ($321,483), White Ribbon Australia ended up with a net loss of $441,787.

There is one category conspicuously absent from their financial report: services rendered.

While we are admittedly still looking, thus far we have found no evidence that White Ribbon Australia has ever contributed a solid nickel to a single service for actual victims of domestic violence. That includes female victims.

Indeed, as far as we are able to ascertain, White Ribbon Australia operates at a loss largely due to the financial self-indulgence of its staff, and does so strictly by lying to the Australian public about the incidence, severity, and causes of IPV, with the slight caveat that they do provide an online pledge that men are asked to sign saying they won’t beat women.

Lying is a strong word. And it should be backed up with evidence that this is what they are doing. For the next week, we will be providing that evidence on a regular basis on the front page of AVfM, as well as through multiple social media platforms and in concert with other organizations concerned with the corruption that has spread through the domestic violence industry like a stomach virus on a cruise ship.

The first of many examples ahead is the following statement published on White Ribbon Australia’s organizational report:


This is patently false, and has been proven as such.

Australia’s One in Three Foundation, a true domestic violence prevention advocacy group, offers the following fact check:


Also, an examination of Australian government statistics on the causes of injury, death, and illness by gender distribution undermines the claim unambiguously:http://www.aihw.gov.au/deaths/causes-of-death/.

We also have to note that even when counting mental illnesses such as depression and chronic anxiety, there is no evidence anywhere that these conditions are caused by IPV. In other words, this is just one big, fat falsehood being sold like “gold” chains by scam artists who can be found on street corners in most major cities.

White Ribbon Australia, however, is quite aware of how the system works. Once they get the media to commit to one of their lies, there is little to nothing anyone can or will do about it. Least of all White Ribbon Australia.

Psychotherapist Tom Golden demonstrates precisely how this works with the spread of false information through the media here:

And this is no stranger to people involved in White Ribbon Australia.

Consider the case of noted Australian feminist ideologue, IPV “expert,” and White Ribbon celebrity Dr. Michael Flood of the University of Wollongong. Some years back, Flood released a, well, flood of false information and statements about domestic violence, including the following:

Women are far more likely than men to experience a range of controlling tactics and experience violence after separation…. Women’s perpetration of violence is much more often than men’s in self-defence…. Men are more likely to perpetrate … for instrumental reasons.

Dr. Flood was approached by Men’s Health Australia Magazine and asked for research to support these claims. He could not provide it and later admitted that no such research existed.

The facts refuting his statements are as follows:

The Australian Institute of Family Studies (1999) observed that, post-separation, fairly similar proportions of men (55 per cent) and women (62 per cent) reported experiencing physical violence including threats by their former spouse. Self-defense is cited by women as the reason for their use of IPV (including severe violence such as homicide) in a small minority of cases (from 5 to 20 per cent). After analyzing for verbal aggression, fear, violence and control by each gender, husbands are found to be no more controlling than wives.

Dr. Flood’s disinformation made many rounds through worldwide media and he never offered a correction. Not that it would matter. As Golden demonstrates quite clearly, once the lie is out there, the media has an unfortunate habit of sticking to it.

There is a specific and overarching reason that all of this is so important. Decades of clinical experience working with violent families has led me to the inescapable conclusion that the most harm from IPV (very little of it is fatal or seriously physically injurious) is visited on the lives of children who live in homes where one or both parents are violent.

These children are subjected to severe psychosocial stress factors that interfere with their education; lead to drug and alcohol abuse, truancy, delinquency, teen pregnancy, criminality; and perhaps even more importantly lead many of them to enter and maintain abusive relationships as adults.

The false “gendered” model of IPV sold by organizations like White Ribbon Australia not only misses the boat on the science about the problem, but it also contributes to perpetuating the cycle of violence by denying the existence of much of what is happening. By disingenuously painting this as a problem rooted in masculinity, they betray and abandon the children in families with violent mothers, condemning them to suffer ongoing abuse and repeat that cycle as adults. Much of this will lead to even more violence against women, as well as more men and children.

More simply put, the White Ribbon Campaign in Australia is enabling and promoting child abuse in the name of making a buck.

White Ribbon Campaigns in Australia and other countries will not be shaken easily from the corrupt business they are conducting. Their model of IPV, while manufactured and misleading, is the most salable version to a public largely ignorant of the real issues involved.

AVfM will do its part to try, just the same. The very moment this article was published marked a kickoff to our campaign to inform the public that they are being lied to, and that the money they donate to White Ribbon Campaigns does nothing more than make a handful of people affluent while creating still more victims of abuse who will take that dysfunction into future generations.

We will henceforth declare that November 25 of each year is White Ribbon Fraud Day and will dedicate as many resources as possible to outing the deception about IPV that currently profit groups like the one in Australia. One of the best ways to out these hucksters is to name them. The following staff list is provided by White Ribbon Australia:





Finally, we will also take the opportunity to promote and refer people to the one White Ribbon organization that is dedicated to evidence-based solutions to this significant social malady.

WhiteRibbon.org is headed by Ms. Erin Pizzey. She is the worldwide founder of the women’s shelter movement and one of the world’s leading experts on IPV. Her website is rich with interviews, radio programming, and articles written by other scholarly authorities on the subject of family violence and whose non-ideological research demonstrates just how far the domestic violence industry has strayed from the truth in order to capitalize on fear and miscalled compassion.

We will aggressively undertake this campaign every year until the domestic violence industry is forced to change in a way that actually serves the purpose of helping victims of IPV rather than satisfying an ideological, financial agenda.

Author’s note: Blanket permission is extended to anyone who wishes to reproduce this article in full for placement on their blogs, websites or any other media platform. Indeed, such reproduction is requested and greatly appreciated. 

Correction issued: re: “Dr. Flood was approached by Men’s Health Australia Magazine…” That line should have read “Men’s Health Australia,” which is a men’s issues group, not to be confused with Men’s Health publication. 

Dr. Flood still maintains that the blatant lies he told about the experience of women’s and men’s post separation experiences are not really lies, and offers the blatant lies of other ideologues as support. 

37 Responses to “On White Ribbon Day, help promote awareness of domestic violence as an issue that affects everyone”

  1. ronreddick November 24, 2014 at 16:15 #

    JB, you may want to check, today, for the first time very my gmail inbox (using outlook) moved the notification of a new Post email to the SPAM folder. I happened to catch it and moved it out. Now maybe no conspiracy going on, but that has never happened with any email from you site. So it Google doing something? Could be, as they are the ones that would mark it in their email policies as SPAM.

    Just an FYI


  2. judgybitch November 24, 2014 at 16:34 #

    How interesting. Thanks.


  3. ronreddick November 24, 2014 at 16:35 #

    BTW – great piece from Paul – very informative, and agree Whiteribbon.org is a great resource.


  4. DDJ November 24, 2014 at 16:42 #

    I just signed up yesterday and your first email delivered to me (…today’s) also went to gmail Spam -_-


  5. ronreddick November 24, 2014 at 16:48 #

    I smell a Feminazi within Google working against us.


  6. ronreddick November 24, 2014 at 17:06 #

    From google site:

    Gmail automatically helps identify spam and suspicious emails by detecting viruses, finding patterns across messages, and learning from what Gmail users like you commonly mark as spam or phishing.

    So it could be that some of the fem voices that hate us are signing up for email alerts and then marking the messages as Spam. It seems that kind of back door attack on you would trigger the logic within the gmail servers to mark your source address as a spammer.

    Or worst case – internal google person who hates open dialogue is working against you.



  7. judgybitch November 24, 2014 at 17:09 #

    Gets more interesting. Got a message from Email Sherlock that someone inside Google has been searching for me. Looking for doxxing information? Not sure, but Mountain View CA with a 650 phone number is Google Inc. and that’s the source of the search.


  8. Mark November 24, 2014 at 17:36 #

    They likely use what are called Bayesian filters for deciding what is spam. Which means that if a source is frequently delegated as spam by users, then google will interpret it as spam for all users. I’m not sure if different email sites share their ‘spam’ information (or if they have sharing policies with facebook or whatever), but I could imagine they might; if so then if enough feminists delegate something as spam in their own email accounts, or perhaps even something they do with it on facebook newsfeed or links posted by a friend or something, then the Bayesian filter might just ‘deduce’ that that source is spam, and treat it as such for everyone.

    Of course, given what we know for sure about facebook, twitter, and wikipedia, not to mention various internet ‘security’ sites, enforcing feminist bias, and the fact that google does seem to share certain ideological inclinations with those sites, it is not out of the question that the censors, err, I mean ‘vetters’, at google have decided to do likewise.


  9. slacker November 24, 2014 at 18:46 #

    My Gmail classified you as spam as well, it never did so in the past.


  10. caprizchka November 24, 2014 at 19:20 #

    Upon viewing the Tom Golden video, I couldn’t help but notice that one of the “violence” metrics was “spanked.” Spanked? Really? I’m surprised “rough sex,” “golden showers,” and “deep throating” wasn’t included in the “violence”. What about “cross looks” and “leaving the toilet seat up”?


  11. Goober November 24, 2014 at 22:12 #

    Okay, I’m going into “duck and cover” mode, but when do we have a day discussing the choice made by so many to develop and then maintain and stay in a relationship that is abusive?

    Are you really a victim if you’re willing?

    Or is there another reason that people, men and women both (but especially men, in my personal experience) keep going back to abusers and making excuses for them and staying with them?

    I had a buddy with a gal that was pretty clearly bi-polar, who’d beat on him pretty regularly. Throw things at him. Come after him with broken glass or knives from the kitchen. That sort of thing. He stayed with her long enough that I couldn’t stay with him any more. I told him that I was unwilling to watch him kill himself over his inability to give up being abused.

    he’s since left her.

    Do they thrive off the drama? Are they broken, abused people who search out abusers because that’s what they think they deserve? Do they see this as normal?

    When do we have that discussion?

    And no, I’m not “blaming the victim.” As in all of these discussions where they gets trotted out – common sense dictates that telling someone that they had a hand in their own abuse does not excuse the abuser for their actions.


  12. Rebecca November 24, 2014 at 23:59 #

    Sexual politics used to include some rhetoric about the sanctity of one’s own bedroom and what goes on between consenting adults. I guess that’s out of style now.

    Liked by 1 person

  13. FuzzieWuzzie November 25, 2014 at 00:05 #

    A never before seen first. I think Captain Capitalism picked up on this and he wrote something furious. I have never seen these two on the same page at the same time.

    Part of it may stem from the fact that Captain Capitalism’s father was clergy.


  14. caprizchka November 25, 2014 at 00:45 #

    Confess your sinful sexual practices to the Feminist authorities, and you shall be given penance in the divine wisdom of The Matriarchy. Repent!


  15. Rebecca November 25, 2014 at 01:12 #

    It is a good question. To help answer it, I recommend the book A General Theory of Love. According to this book all mammals have an organ in the brain that is specialized for socialization (the limbic system). All mammals have a biological need for contact with another at some point in their lives. Rats deprived of mother’s touch as infants show abnormalities in their metabolism. Deprived monkey infants become violently and irreparably psychotic. Human babies deprived of loving contact inevitably die, even when their other basic needs are met.

    People are who are drawn to abusive relationships have suffered damage to their socialization apparatus. They were raised that way or had some trauma. It is also a probable cause for depression, anxiety and other mental malaise. Society ignores this biological reality at its peril.

    Another answer to the question is in attachment theory. I won’t go into that but you can google it.

    I have much admiration for Erin Pizzay because she did so much work to really try to help abusive *families* get better. It is a tragic loss for us all what the feminists did to her and her work.


  16. patriarchal landmine November 25, 2014 at 03:44 #

    domestic violence does NOT affect women the same way as men.

    men have to take the brunt of the punishment, in every way, from domestic violence.


  17. Mark November 25, 2014 at 04:21 #

    I would say that many people today implicitly believe that a person isn’t really responsible for their behavior; thinking in terms of choices and consequences is now unfortunately considered reactionary for some reason. For example, Catherine McKinnon argued that all sex is rape because women are ‘collectively’ unable to consent due to their oppressed status. This is only an extreme form of what many people in the mainstream believe. That a person (or at least so long as they fit the requisite demographic criteria) is never really to blame when poor choices lead to poor consequences.

    Perhaps it’s as simple as, we can live in a free world that is often dangerous, or a safe world that isn’t free, and feminists, almost invariably choose the latter (though it’s mainly men’s freedom that is forfeit for the sake of women’s safety).


  18. Jim November 25, 2014 at 15:59 #

    No kidding! Even if the man is abused and he calls the police guess who goes to jail? This is the new Jim Crow people.


  19. Mike November 25, 2014 at 16:31 #

    Based on the salary+benefits number, WRA probably has 10 employees. Paying $131K for rent ( vs $40K last year) means they have moved up to some premium real estate.


  20. Richard Olsen November 26, 2014 at 08:38 #

    I got nothing but abuse for daring to question why this day doesn’t include all familial violence on the Sydney Morning Herald Facebook page.
    I was called a troll, a misogynist, a sexist, a bigot, a wanker and even had my mental health challenged.

    I tried to explain that I survived not just familial violence from a sister who tried to kill me from when I was only 1 year old. I also had another sister break my thumb at age four for accidentally pushing the car door closed on her leg (she was 14 at the time). I had to put up with abuse from my brother.

    Then as a teenager I was viciously raped continually by a flatmate. Being poor and him taking all my money, I had nowhere to go. I asked his female friend to help me and she refused. Saying, there was nothing she could do. It wasn’t the last time I had ever been viciously raped. The last time being the time that my rapist infected me with HIV. I still remember his hands around my throat.

    Sharing my story with these individuals just got me hateful abuse. These are the kinds of sick minds we’re dealing with. They don’t care one little bit about any real victims of domestic abuse or of rape. They only care about their ideology and in their ideology, men don’t exist and therefore don’t matter.

    End of rant from me.


  21. Master Beta November 26, 2014 at 16:03 #

    What exactly are they trying to raise awareness of?
    That violence exists? That women can be victims of violence?
    I think you’d have to live in a bubble to not be aware that violence exists.


  22. Mark November 26, 2014 at 21:06 #

    Those sound like some pretty harrowing experiences. These days it seems a black person can as soon expect empathy from a klansman as a man can expect empathy from a feminist.


  23. Mark November 26, 2014 at 21:13 #

    The goal isn’t to rise awareness but I’d say is to imbue in men a sense as much a sense of guilt and shame as possible for what “they” do to women. Officially, they deny it’s about collective guilt, but the rhetoric they use is clearly designed to make individual men feel as guilty as possible over things they almost certainly have never done. The guiltier they make us feel for things other people do the more they an milk out of us.

    Because picking up the phone and calling the police is apparently a nearly impossible feat for women.


  24. Andy G November 26, 2014 at 23:08 #

    Their mission statement about being about “raising awareness” is why they’ll never get shut down by the government for ‘stealing’ from a charity: they’re not promising anything but promotion of the cause.
    If we saw the same thing from the Red Cross or the Salvation Army they’d be hauled before the courts for misappropriation of funds as the funds (or a large portion there of) are collected for the purpose of actually helping people.
    Something as nebulous as “awareness” will continue to line many pockets before people wake up.
    South Park did a pretty good episode on this titled “Scause for a Cause” which is all about how businesses profit from fad causes selling tokens to raise awareness until the next cause comes up.


  25. blokeyboy November 27, 2014 at 04:32 #

    Check out the partnerships page at whiteribbon.org.au. It says that it will not accept partnerships that “Initiatives that position women as bearing responsibility for preventing men’s violence against them (e.g. female safety apps, whistles, etc.)”. So if you tell a woman to lock the door when you leave, you are making her bear the onus of responsibility rather than her attacker. Same bullshit that the Slutwalk guys ere pushing. And it makes women more likely to be assaulted!


  26. Mark November 28, 2014 at 05:17 #

    They want women to be assaulted. If no more women were assaulted, they’d have no more reason to exist and collect people’s money. Feminist adaptation of Voltaire’s adage: If there were no rape culture, we would have to invent one.


  27. etmalthusianism November 28, 2014 at 15:38 #

    Not now. A man woman sex act is now an adult child sex act because feminists have defined all women as children. Not only are all men “rapists” but they are now also “paedophiles”.


  28. etmalthusianism November 28, 2014 at 15:49 #

    This is my story. I was fortunate that this dangerous woman didn’t want me from the first. https://leftleaningantifeminist.wordpress.com/2014/06/24/the-best-relationship-i-never-had/


  29. etmalthusianism November 28, 2014 at 15:54 #

    That’s a common reaction. There are several reactions to stories of male victims of domestic violence. The first is “it doesn’t happen” or it’s a “one in a million”. The next reaction is “he must have done something to deserve it”. The last reaction is “that’s funny”.


  30. etmalthusianism November 28, 2014 at 16:08 #

    A very good article. I sometimes think living in Australia that I am the only sane inmate of an insane asylum.


  31. The Real Peterman November 30, 2014 at 03:51 #

    What kind of charity loses money? That’s amazing to me.


  32. Beans McGrady December 7, 2014 at 00:52 #

    Can anyone explain to me why the bunky cheating robbers and the good guys who help everyone have the exact same name?
    I find it a little confusing.


  33. Beans McGrady December 7, 2014 at 03:01 #

    I figured it out. nevermind



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