This is an interesting blog written by a personal friend of mine who has spent the last 11 years paying child support for a son he seen only a handful of times.
http://whereismyson.wordpress.com/
Please follow this blog if you want a detailed story about how corrupt family courts can be, and how one rapacious, cruel woman can ruin the lives of everyone she touches.
She has the baby. Refuses to tell me where and when. Calls me after the fact, saying I have a son and she wants money. Being told by her father about the boyfriend, I advise that I’d love to have a son, but considering the circumstances, I wanted a DNA test. She refused to comply. I had a good relationship with her attorney at the time. He stated that HE couldn’t get her to comply either. This caused us both to wonder if the baby was mine or the boyfriend’s.
My understanding is that, with heavy pressure from the court, she finally participated in a DNA test and the baby (Hunter Lewis Cacioppo) was in fact mine. I immediately began paying a great deal of child support voluntarily (without court action) directly to the attorney and started negotiating a time for me to come see him.
Trish was totally non compliant every step of the way. She fought mediation. She fought and ignored court orders. She lied to counsel and the court about my parenting ability and core competencies, to the point that during a full fledged trial when I presented my evidence her attorney was so embarrassed by her client that she eventually stopped representing her. The lawyer told me that no matter what the judgement was (and it was favorable to me) that, “You will never see your son. She will never let you.”. How true that was.
It’s a heartbreaking story, and one that countless numbers of men have experienced.
This is a crime against men, and a terrible crime against children. A devastating legacy of feminism that women must answer for. Anyone who supports this must answer.
The sooner, the better.
Thinking of you, Joe.
Lots of love,
JB
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Great post, JB.
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Thank you for helping me get out there, JB. You’re a great friend. Hug the fam for me.
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The best that can be done is to do as you have JB. The more people that are aware of hazards, the less inclined they will be to take them.
Believing in a higher power administering justice helps but, that is for another plane of existence.
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Question for any legal eagles that may be reading:
Since he’s got legal custody, and she’s in flagrant violation of court order and jurisdiction (fleeing), would it be considered kidnapping if he just went and took the kid with him back to the court’s jurisdiction? I get the sense she’s not a very involved mother (heartless shrew seems more appropriate), so there’s gotta be plenty of opportunities to pick the kid up without actually coming into contact with her (so she can’t claim he took the kid violently). Although, him being 11 is a complicating factor.
Basically, it’s clear the court won’t do shit to make things right. What can he do, of his own accord, that won’t land him in jail?
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This reaffirms my belief that all pregnancies (or marriages potentially conducive to children) should require a contract to be signed by both parties preceding it, enumerating all rights and responsibilities expected of, and agreed upon, by either, with respect to the future children. Such a contract could only be nullified by criminal actions (abuse or neglect) or by one’s own violation of the contract.
Such mandatory contractual agreements would render family courts almost entirely redundant, which I calculate is a good thing.
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I’m in a particularly hard place. For all intents and purposes, he has pretty much never seen me before. At 11, any good parent has, “Stranger Danger”d him to death…. especially his mother figuring that I’d be coming around some day.
I don’t want to scare the hell out of him. I don’t want to get locked up either. Frankly, I want what is best for him. If he grew up thinking Mr. Slattery is his father and this guy is a solid guy… I don’t want to ruin his world. On the other hand, if my son is the male equivalent to Eponine from Les Mizerables Yall will be putting together my bail fund on EBAY.
Honestly, after all this time, I never actually saw this day coming. I’m just at the edge of my seat at the moment.
What would YOU guys do?
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I so appreciate the kind thoughts. JB Says the Blog has breached 4K views. I’m only showing a little over 100 on my counter. In any event, however you get here keep coming!! Send your friends and family!! It looks like we may actually see a court take an actual action against injustice? Maybe? Could be? However it works out, I’m sharing with yall.
Fingers crossed.
JSC
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I feel for you, sir! I’m in pierce county as well and it’s troubling to see such a terrible situation happen so close to home.
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I appreciate the sentiment. Thank you.
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Great point. I’m only 26 myself, with no likelihood of kids soon so I can’t imagine what you’re going through. But in all my imaginings of having them, the idea of someone taking my child from me makes me go blind with rage.
Some decidedly illegal but potentially effective remedies:
— Stash drugs in her house/car and call in some anonymous tip that’ll get it searched.
— Spike her daily coffee cup with LSD
— Steal her identity and link it to some crime heinous enough to land her in jail long enough to get the kid in your house, then just never give him back
— (Actually legal) Hire a private detective to gather dirt on her, then go to the news with it. Sensationalize it a little and they’ll bite.
— Provide her current man with evidence she’s been cheating on him (even if she hasn’t). If he beats her, sue her for letting the child be in an unsafe home.
— Frivolous or fabricated lawsuit. Recoup some of the money she’s stolen from you.
— Get her put on the sex offender registry
Basically, the ‘proper’ channels for meting out justice are doing nothing. She deserves punishment, and you deserve your son. Specifically what she ends up getting punished for is a detail.
Obviously, most of the above are incredibly risky, and ill-advised since you also have a daughter. Probably more trouble than they’re worth. But the principle is the same. She’s working outside the system to fuck with you, a tactic that is proving more effective than working within it. Switch to more effective tactics.
And is there really no way to rain some kind of legal destruction on her head for violating court orders and fleeing jurisdiction? It’s my impression they don’t take that kind of thing lightly. Maybe you could get some civil injunction against her related to the family court rulings, I’d imagine they’ll give much less of a pussy pass in that arena.
Second disclaimer, I’m FAR from a legal expert, so this is mostly me working over the problem in a way that somewhat satisfies the anger I feel at even considering some bitch jerking me around like this.
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Thank you for giving me the first hard laugh I’ve had in a long time. Although I know you know none of the above are anywhere near legit, I feel the frustration alot. I just have to continue to be a dope and believe that somewhere is a Judge who believes in upholding the actual law and will do something once I’m lucky enough to get in front of him/her.
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I NEED YOUR HELP. You guys have all been great. I need one small thing from each of you. It’s not even a penny. It’s merely a “Click”.
Could each of you physically go to my blog and either “follow” or “like” it so that your name or email show up as followers/likers?
My goal is to finally get in front of the court and approach the bench with a print out of thousands of other Men (and women) who support the fight for Father’s Rights and equal parenting under the law.
Regardless of venue, that list of you guys should help to make some kind of a statement, yes?
I appreciate your time.
More blog to come today.
JSC
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I don’t think a list of blog followers is going to carry much punch. A petition would be better, if still a little ephemeral. It would at least be a positive declaration of support from the people signing it, whereas simply following the blog carries no clear implication of intent.
Have you heard of change.org? I’m not super familiar with it, but from what I’ve heard, your case could have some legs there. And it’d be a chance to get your story (and petition, if you do one) out to a wider audience. If it gets popular, any google search for her name will pull up the story, and she’ll be haunted by it the rest of her career. Fully legal, not libelous (but do check with a lawyer), and a sweet measure of karma delivered to her doorstep.
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I’ve both followed and liked it! I hope you see some progress soon!
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This is just awful! And honestly, every child wants to know their real dad. Eleven is young enough for you to still create a bond, so I hope you can meet each other soon.
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Thank you. I hope so 😦
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🙂
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Yes, a petition could, possibly, be fruitful. One would think that public officials may be more likely to make equitable decisions or take action in this case if they knew they were being watched by a lot of interested people.
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Reblogged this on SHE WANTS MY BLOOD.
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What are YOU leaving out for Santa Tonight? 🙂
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UPDATE: She split, yet again – http://whereismyson.wordpress.com/2015/01/12/fled-changed-her-name-again/
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Oh no! But how can she even collect the child support without giving them an address? Even if they direct deposit it into her bank account, she’s required to give an address to the bank, right?
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I still don’t get how she’s been hiding all this time and still collecting child support. Presumably the court knows where she is, right?
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