12 Ways to Spot A Feminist

This post originally appeared at Psychology Today and was titled “12 Ways to Spot a Misogynist”. I’ve swapped out “misogynist” for “feminist” and reversed the genders. I deleted the whole section on dating, because feminists will never offer to pay, and in fact will sulk and throw a hissy if men treat them as equals.

Let’s put this article in reverse. Rather interesting, don’t you think?

The feminists. You may have heard of them. But what you may not realize is that they can be anywhere around you. They are notoriously hard to spot. They do not come with a label attached, and they may even come across as pro-man.

In most cases, feminists do not even know that they hate men. Feminism is typically an unconscious hatred that women form early in life, often as a result of a trauma involving a male figure they trusted. An abusive or negligent father, brother, teacher or boyfriend can plant a seed deep down in their brain’s subcortical matter.

Once planted, this seed will germinate and begin to grow, the tiny root working its way into the fear processing and memory areas of the brain as its tiny stem works its way into frontal areas of the brain, affecting emotion and rational decision-making.

The first signs of feminism are barely noticeable, but with additional exposure to neglect, abuse, or lack of treatment, this behavioral seeding will grow larger and more prominent. But even when the feminism reaches maturity and the tendency toward acting with hatred toward men can no longer be controlled, the feminist and the men around her will often fail to notice the condition until it’s too late.

The following traits are typical of the feminist:

She will zero in on a man and choose him as her target. His natural defenses may be down because she’s flirtatious, exciting, fun, and charismatic at first.

As time goes on, she begins to reveal a Jekyll & Hyde personality. She may change quickly from irresistible to rude, and from rude back to irresistible.

She will make promises to men and often fail to keep them. With women, on the other hand, she will almost always keep her word.

She will be late for appointments and dates with men, but be quite punctual with women.

Her behavior toward men in general is grandiose, cocky, controlling, and self-centered.

She is extremely competitive, especially with men. If a man does better than her socially or professionally, she feels terrible. If a woman does better, she may have mixed feelings about it but she is able to look at the situation objectively.

She will unknowingly treat men differently from women in workplace and social settings, allowing women various liberties for which she will criticize male colleagues or friends.

She will be prepared (unconsciously) to use anything within her power to make men feel miserable. She may demand sex or withhold sex in her relationships, make jokes about men or put them down in public, “borrow” their ideas in professional contexts without giving them credit, or borrow money from them without paying them back.

Sexually, she likes to control men and gives little or no attention to their sexual pleasure. Foreplay, if it occurs at all, is only a necessary means to an end. She likes oral sex but only as a recipient. Her favorite positions enable her to avoid looking the man in his eyes.

She will cheat on men she is dating or in a relationship with. Monogamy is the last thing she feels she owes a man.

She may suddenly disappear from a relationship without ending it, but may come back three months later with an explanation designed to lure the man back in.

Only rarely will a feminist possess every one of these traits, which makes it harder to identify them. Their ability to lure men in with their charm and charisma adds to the difficulty of spotting the early-warning signs.

Man haters (unconsciously) get off on treating men badly. Every time they can put down a man or hurt his feelings, they unconsciously feel good because deep down in their hidden brain, their bad behavior is rewarded with a dose of the pleasure chemical dopamine—which makes them want to repeat the behavior again and again.

Gee, and people wonder why #WomenAgainstFeminism exists?

Such a mystery.

Lots of love,

JB