My new Thought Catalog article, a collaboration with Prentice Reid.
I’ve known Prentice for quite some time over various social media platforms and he has always impressed me as a serious historian and journalist. He’s the very definition of what the Fifth Estate should be, and the paradigmatic citizen blogger.
He’s a personal hero, to be honest.
I am Prentice’s editor at A Voice for Men, so I get a chance to read his stuff well before anyone else. By mutual agreement, I have been adapting Prentice’s work for Thought Catalog, adding my own spin onto his research and tailoring it for that audience.
And between the two of us, we are killing it!
I always credit Prentice in the Thought Catalog articles and provide links back to his original research, but just to make it clear as clear can be, I am standing on the back on Prentice’s immaculate research into issues we both care about, very deeply.
That is a privilege.
One I have only two words for:
Lots of love,
JB
judgybitch 
So NOW went and removed their statement against shared parenting, but just didn’t say anything in favor of it? That figures. I wonder if all my recent references to it are what made ’em do it.
But about the small percentage of parents who crave some time alone, it doesn’t necessarily mean the person is selfish. I realize the percentage was slightly higher for mothers than fathers, and mothers do tend (by choice, of course) to be the most involved in meeting a child’s earliest, most intensive needs.
I just don’t see it as very constructive to take statistics where people communicate about what they want and say, “Well, wanting this means you’re selfish, and wanting this other thing means you’re a better person.” We can let people feel what they feel without sticking a label on them.
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This reminds me of the JB story where her son dropped a gum ball under a counter in line at a grocery store, and was working himself up toward one of those epic, screaming tantrums toddlers are known for. She shut it right down by telling him ‘you can’t control what you feel, but you CAN control what you do, and you WILL control that.’ You know, the basic concept of personal responsibility, which many adults don’t grasp.
My favorite part of the story is how the other moms in line gave her death glares. Like, how DARE you be a better mom than me in PUBLIC?!
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Um, “Prentice Reid and I are Killing It?” Grammar, girl.
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Great new article on TC! 🙂 Keep up the good work.
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Nope. Check your MLA manual. Him and me, he and I.
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But not “Me and XXX,” right?
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I don’t know. Really. Always thought if the pronoun was him or her, then it’s me. If the pronoun is he or she then it’s I.
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I was referring to the sequence for the pronouns? that represent the people involved. It’s deferential to put the other person first, just like holding a door open. Until the last twenty? years the only times I ever heard “Me and XX” was coming from the mouths of quasi-literates. Now, it’s epidemic, but mostly found in (from my vantage point) young adults. Of course, language always evolves, so maybe some day it will be just fine. To us old farts, it grates on the ear and brain.
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“I was referring to the sequence for the pronouns? that represent the people involved. It’s deferential to put the other person first, just like holding a door open.”
LOL, so is JB showing her unwillingness to defer to any male — it’s always gotta be her first and then him? This could be construed as either extreme traditionalist chivalry or radical feminist man-hating — and I know JB doesn’t align herself with either of those camps.
I think the neo-traditionalist title should be “We are killing it: Prentice Reid, you know I’m talking about you!” 🙂
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Title updated! Yours was better, Susan. And I happily claim the “neo-traditionalist” label.
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Me too!
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Chapter 24 will be up later today. Have to do my crazy dance runs and then I will get to it.
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Now, Susan, you know it has nothing to do with sex or gender. It’s strictly about others first.
Thanks, Judgy.
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Oh good I was hoping for that!
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As of 8:30 MDT on Saturday night there is no link to the Thought Catalog article in this piece. I know how to find it though.
http://thoughtcatalog.com/janet-bloomfield/2015/03/6-truths-about-dads-feminists-dont-want-you-to-know/
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“Now, it’s epidemic”
It hardly matters. English is on the way to being a dead language anyway.
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You base this on what? What you are smoking?
A dead language means no one speaks it. That’s quite a claim you are making. Yes, Mandarin is the new thing linguistically for the future, but it doesn’t take one speaker away from English. In fact, Chinese seek to learn English by the millions.
And then there’s the matter of all international pilots and air traffic controllers speaking English, the only recognized language for such purposes.
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Thank you for the link.
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