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Slut-shaming is totally awesome, but only if the slut in question is a man

9 Jun

 

 

So our across the back alley neighbors had a little party last night, and things got rather rowdy. Two young women were talking about their wealthy, but utterly clueless husbands and starting tossing stories back and forth about all the hot young guys they picked up in bars behind their husband’s backs.

 

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What a pack of sluts! I decided to take some action against these pigs, and I took their pictures from my back deck, without their knowledge and then uploaded the shots to Facebook, with the following caption: if you are married to these whores, know that they are openly talking about fucking other men.

 

Please re-post.

 

How do I know it wasn’t just Jack Daniels talking? I don’t.

How do I know they really DID pick up other guys? I don’t. They said it, so it must be true, right?

What do I hope to gain from posting their photos? Well, to wreck their lives, obviously. I intend to cause harm.

Why do I feel entitled to do that? Well, why not? The ladies are disgusting pigs, and they deserve to be harmed. I don’t know them, but their conversation offended me, so fuck them.

 

Okay, that didn’t happen. Not to me, anyways. And while I would be disgusted if I had to listen to that kind of conversation, I would not be taking anyone’s picture and I sure as hell wouldn’t put a stranger’s face up on Facebook for the sole purpose of harming them.

 

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Steph Strayer (what a hilariously appropriate name) had no similar compunctions. According to Steph, two men on a train were bragging about cheating on their “stupid” wives, and she took such offense to a conversation which was not directed at her and did not include her that she snapped a photo of the man in question and posted it to her personal Facebook page with the following caption:

‘If this is your husband, I have endured a 2 hour train ride from Philadelphia listening to this loser and his friends brag about their multiple affairs and how their wives are too stupid to catch on. Oh please repost…’

 

The post went viral. Last count was 224 000 shares.

 

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2337983/The-husband-accused-cheater-183-000-people-Facebook-mother-claims-overheard-bragging-affairs-train.html

 

“I just thought he was such a pig,” said Stephanie. She said she didn’t worry at the time about what effect her posting might have on him, since she was so disgusted by what he was saying. “I was just so fed up with the two-hour train ride and listening to this person be so vulgar,” she said.

 

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Later, she added, “A friend of mine said, ‘Have you thought about how this might hurt his wife’s feelings?’” But Stephanie said if she were his wife, she’d want to know: “I would be thinking if I were in her shoes, knowledge is power.”

 

http://www.salon.com/2013/06/08/woman_who_photographed_alleged_cheater_i_just_thought_he_was_such_a_pig/

 

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Most of the responses to Steph deciding that she will be the arbiter of justice have been overwhelmingly positive. I wonder what the response would be if a man had taken a picture of a woman and called her a pig and a loser and pasted it all over social media?

 

Oh, wait. We already know the answer to that. Facebook would ban it, for inciting hatred against women. Can you imagine the reckoning that hypothetical woman would face when she was finally outed? Flip the genders.

 

“I would be thinking if I were in his shoes, knowledge is power.”

 

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Power to do what?

 

For me, this question is NOT about spouses who cheat, or vulgar conversations in small spaces, or even about privacy.

 

It’s about intent. What does Steph hope will happen to this man? She doesn’t know him, let alone know if anything he said is true, nor does she know the circumstances of his life or marriage or really anything at all about him, except that she was offended by him.

 

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Posting that picture on Facebook was done with the intent to harm, in one way or another. If a man ever did that to a woman, he would be in handcuffs in very short order. He would not be cheered on by countless thousands of women for outing a slut who deserves what’s coming to her.

 

And yes, it’s mostly women who are gleefully awaiting the destruction they hope is to come.

 

From the Daily Mail:

 

GO STEPH!!!!!! More pigs like this need exposed

– Caleighn, Harrisburg, United States, 8/6/2013 15:46

 

How many of us have sat on a bus or train and listened to some idiot/s giving it the “big I am”? I admire the woman for sending the post and I hope the loser gets his just desserts. Feel sorry for his wife though. He will have a hell of a lot of sweet talking to do if he was lying on that train!!!

– Michelle, London, United Kingdom, 8/6/2013 15:28

 

Sweet Justice.

– Patricia Anahi, McAllen, United States, 8/6/2013 17:18

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2337983/The-husband-accused-cheater-183-000-people-Facebook-mother-claims-overheard-bragging-affairs-train.html

 

I really can’t think of a more blatant example of the double standards women apply to men, but would never in a million years accept for themselves. Call out boorish, slutty women, and you are a creepy slut-shamer. Call out boorish, slutty men, and you are a hero. Take the additional step of inviting real harm to his life, which you know NOTHING about, and the world applauds.

 

Disgusting.

 

At what point did Steph Slayer come to believe she has the right to publicly ridicule men she doesn’t like, the right to never be offended by anyone else’s conversation, the right to decide what happens in someone else’s marriage? How did she never learn to mind her own fucking business?

 

Brings to mind another woman who tried that, doesn’t it?

 

http://judgybitch.com/2013/03/22/delicate-flower-has-her-sensibilities-offended-gets-her-ass-handed-to-her/

 

I hope Steph meets the same fate.

 

She so deserves it.

 

Lots of love,

 

JB

 

 

Why don’t we have a Dumb Fucking Whore Registry? Now that would be justice.

18 Mar

Trigger warning:  holy shit, this pisses me off.

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So two of the boys involved in the Steubenville “rape” case were found guilty and will now face imprisonment and a lifetime membership on the Registered List of Sex Offenders. That is a tragedy for the boys, for justice and for the victims of actual rape.  As we go through this case, ask yourself who benefits from this verdict, and why.

http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/17/justice/ohio-steubenville-case/index.html?hpt=hp_inthenews

Most of the facts in this case seem relatively incontrovertible:  a young woman, who was not part of the regular social group, went to a football party, in a town mad for football, got trashed out of her mind, voluntarily accompanied two of the biggest football stars to another party, passed out and then got treated like a whore.

http://judgybitch.com/2012/12/18/a-shit-faced-drunk-girl-a-football-star-and-a-vigilante-feminist-the-makings-of-a-fairy-tale/

In a moment of mind-numbing stupidity, the boys opted to film their “assault” on the girl, which involved fingering her while she was passed out.  Rather than leave her in a ditch somewhere, they carried her around to different locations, none of which had any adult supervision.

What the fuck, Steubenville?  Where are all the goddamn grown-ups?

The law in Ohio states that ANY penetration, however slight, constitutes rape.  Let’s start there.  Comparing a stupid, drunk, helmet-chasing whore who gets fingered while passed out to an actual rape victim is completely and utterly absurd.

This is rape:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/12/28/indian-gang-rape-victim-dies-hospital_n_2377717.html

So is this:

http://haysfreepress.com/2012/05/07/florida-man-extradited-in-hays-county-brutal-rape-case/#axzz2NtuPnHlh

And this:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Central_Park_Jogger_case

Comparing those cases, or any of the other truly brutal rapes to what happened in Steubenville is comparing this:

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To this

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Anyone who stood around moaning that the slight fender bender they got into at the mall is comparable to a fiery, multiple car crash on the interstate would immediately be dismissed as the most self-absorbed narcissist lacking any kind of empathy or perspective.  We have a word to describe people like that:  we call them assholes.

Now, the girl in Steubenville is claiming she didn’t actually drink all that much, and someone must have drugged her!  Toxicology tests?  NEGATIVE.

Oh my!  You mean she’s a lying little tramp desperately trying to avoid ANY culpability for what happened to her?  Well color me shocked.

Defense attorneys say a toxicology report performed a day later showed no signs of drugs.

http://abcnews.go.com/US/steubenville-rape-trial-witness-testifies-recording-alleged-assault/story?id=18738378

The most telling thing about this whole case is that multiple people saw the little tramp passed out and carried about by a couple of douchey guys, and make no mistake, those boys behaved shamefully.  Part of having the adulation and admiration that comes along with being a small town football star is not to abuse that power when the little gold-digging status whores come a-calling, and those boys failed.

Punishment > Crime

That girl had no friends at the party, not one person had enough respect for her to step in, she was not part of the social tribe and there is no way in hell she did not know that.  She went to that party to nab herself a football player, and lo and behold, the football players didn’t really like such an obvious grasp at their glory.

Find yourself another wagon to hitch to, little star.

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The saddest thing is that the boys sobbingly admit that they ruined her life! They are accused of having “no moral code”!  Oh, and the girl had an impeccable one, did she?

RUINED HER LIFE?!?!

Are you fucking kidding me? They are going to jail!  They will be registered sex offenders!  They are convicted criminals! One night of behaving like assholes will follow them the rest of their lives, and HER LIFE IS RUINED?

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Her life is not ruined in the slightest.  LittleTramp is free to go about her life, getting as drunk as she likes, chasing after any high-status males she likes, and securing criminal convictions against men who treat her like the whore she is.

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God help the varsity athletes at whatever college campus she ends up on, and no doubt LittleTramp will get back on her feet after suffering a little humiliation and continue on with her life because SHE’S RUINED.

The young men in this case will never escape the disgustingly unfair consequences of a night of acting like dicks, while the young woman will carry on, unless she feels she isn’t getting quite enough sympathy, of course.  Cue the Prozac and therapy!

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You know what we need?  We need a Drunk Whore Registry. If sex offenders are registered for the protection of all women, then why not register drunk whores for the protection of all men?  It’s true that men could protect themselves by not acting like dicks, but combine small-town celebrity with lots of alcohol and no adult supervision, and you WILL get men acting like assholes and women acting like sluts.

When we only punish one side on that equation, we have a serious cultural problem.  Men are held to account for their irresponsible decisions made while young and stupid and drunk, but women are not? Most crimes acknowledge explicitly that mitigating circumstances create different categories of crime with correspondingly progressive punishments.  Why is rape different?

The punishment these boys face, which will be in effect for THE REST OF THEIR LIVES is way out of proportion to the “crime”.  The definition of rape in Ohio is so broadly defined that the act of being a dickhead is now as serious as the act of fucking a woman forcibly and against her will. And if you don’t think there is a material difference between getting fingered and getting fucked, you are probably a feminist.

Getting drunk and chasing after football stars demonstrates level of stupidity and disrespect for the humanity of the men in question (who are valued only for their status), and that disrespect was returned.  But only the boys are held responsible for that.

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I say bullshit.  No one got raped in Steubenville.  Someone got humiliated, and she participated willingly and readily in her own humiliation.  Turning stupid decisions made by high-school students into criminal acts with consequences that will follow only ONE party for their rest of their lives is deeply unfair, and when fingering a slut at an alcohol fuelled party is put in the same category as violent sexual assault, the real victims are drowned in a chorus of pathetic mewlings of women who didn’t get to bag the star.

Who thinks that if the young woman had woken up the next morning next to the football player, his arms wrapped around her in a loving embrace, she would have considered that the price she had to pay to land the big fish?

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Steubenville:  sour fucking grapes.

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Not just sour, bitter, too.  But only for the men.

How is that justice? Who is served when those boys are locked up?  Who is protected?  Who wins?  How ironic is it that the adults who were NOT present to lend some sanity to what their own children were up to are now fully involved to make certain only the boys are punished?

People make stupid decisions.  Especially when they are young. They act like idiots. They treat other people with a lack of respect.  They behave shamefully.  It happens. Holding boys, and only boys responsible, moves justice from being blind to being blatantly sexist. When justice can only see one sex as guilty, it’s time to put out her eyes again.

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Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

Lots of love,

JB

JudgyBitch vs The Feminists

30 Jan

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Greetings Gentle Listeners, finally it’s ON THE AIR, courtesy of Voice of Russia

JudgyBitch vs The Feminists

‘Slut-shaming’ – valid in any way?

VoRJB

http://ruvr.co.uk/2013_01_29/Slut-shaming-valid-trend/

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