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Ladies, stop being so mean to sluts. Sluts make excellent friends! Said no woman ever, including other sluts.

2 Jun

Poor, sad, lonely little sluts of the world – what are we going to do with them? All their hard work, banging random men they meet in bars, and what does it get them? Well, other than outstanding blowjob techniques, I mean. The rewards of vagina slinging are denied to the slutty ladies who have racked up 20 partners (or more!), and this is clearly a problem.

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Zhana Vrangalova, a graduate student in the field of human development in the College of Human Ecology at Cornell University (hope she’s looking forward to a long career at Starbucks) asked a bunch of women if they thought they might like to be friends with a real, bona fide, the password to my pussy is PASSWORD, sluts.

Eh, no. Even other sluts don’t like sluts.

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Gosh! I wonder why?

“Sexually permissive women are ostracized for being ‘easy,’ whereas men with a high number of sexual partners are viewed with a sense of accomplishment,” Vrangalova said. “What surprised us in this study is how unaccepting promiscuous women were of other promiscuous women when it came to friendships – these are the very people one would think they could turn to for support.”

She added that prior research shows that men often view promiscuous women as unsuitable for long-term romantic relationships, leaving these women outside of many social circles. “The effect is that these women are really isolated,” Vrangalova said.

http://medicalxpress.com/news/2013-05-women-promiscuous-female-peers-friends.html

Oh dear. Well this is terrible news. Nobody likes a slut. Not even other sluts. Of course, Jezebel has to jump on the bandwagon, defending sluts from all the big meanies who think sluts are disgusting, disease ridden scourges on the sexual landscape.

http://jezebel.com/study-makes-a-case-for-national-befriend-a-slut-day-510834761

And true to form, they get the details of the actual study dead wrong.

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Nine out of ten women surveyed listed promiscuity as a negative trait in another woman, while men were more lax about this attribute in the female profile.

Nope. Men didn’t read the women’s profiles. Only same-sex friendships were explored. #sorrysluts

Men with a higher number of sex partners favored men who had less experience, but specified that it was due to evolutionary mate-guarding.

Nope. Men with a high number of sexual partners did NOT prefer less experienced men in eight out of ten tested attributes. Men preferred less experienced men as friends on TWO attributes: mate guarding and dislike of sexuality.

Possibly because less sexually experienced friends are less likely to make a play for your girlfriend? “Mate-guarding”. Such a confusing term. So difficult to make out what that might mean. Science is hard!

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Jezebel doesn’t even get the sample size correct. 751, not 721. Come on now, Barbie. You just had to READ the number. It’s not like you had to count to 751 all by yourself.

Why do I read this shit?

Here is what I find interesting about the research: it refers to prior research that indicates men do not consider sexually promiscuous women suitable long term romantic partners. And again, this is what irritates the crap out of me about writers like the Jezebel ladies or Amanda Marcotte, who will cheer loud and hard for slutty sluts slutting it up, and ignore the fact that there are consequences for women’s behaviour.

Consequences most women will not like.

I honestly have no problem with sluts. If fucking a boatload of random men is your idea of fun, have at it. It’s your life, you do as you please. What I HATE is when women who really are not the least bit slutty listen to all the lies (coming from other women) about how empowering and liberating treating your sexuality like a commodity can be.

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And it’s mostly young women who believe it. They listen to their older sisters and older women in the media and then act contrary to their instincts because they do not understand THEY ARE BEING LIED TO. And none of the big-mouthed ladies will mention that, oh, yeah, along with feeling like a total piece of garbage after sex with a man whose name you barely remember, you will be socially ostracized and considered an inappropriate romantic partner.

Go ahead and wear your slutty school uniforms, little ladies. You should do whatever the hell you want, at all times, and damn the consequences!

amanda

http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/02/15/dress_codes_for_girls_they_don_t_teach_self_respect_only_respecting_girls.html

It’s funny that Amanda uses the words “self-respect” because that is exactly what encouraging slutty behaviour in young women does NOT do. In order to respect yourself, you have to know yourself, and then go ahead and behave in a way that respects what you know. If you honestly, genuinely are capable of completely separating sex and emotion, and it’s just straight up physical pleasure for you and nothing more, then go ahead and hump away.

Biologically, that is simply not true for most women. The simple act of hugging a man causes a spike in oxytocin levels, the hormones that promote bonding. Guess what else? Oxytocin has the EXACT SAME EFFECT ON MEN. Indeed, men produce greater amounts of the love hormone than women in response to sexual activities.

http://undergroundhealthreporter.com/oxytocin-activated-with-a-hug#axzz2V4v7Uclf

It has been assumed that women have higher levels of oxytocin than men do. While the hormone estrogen does indeed make women more susceptible to increased oxytocin, studies show that men produce greater amounts of the hormone during intimate activities such as hugging, kissing and intercourse.

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So Slut Culture doesn’t just lie to and about women; it lies to and about men, as well.

Sex connects humans to one another emotionally. That is a simple biological reality. Sluts violate reality by denying the emotional connection between sexual partners. This hurts women deeply, and most of them will come to regret their sluttiness.

http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2013/01/22/hookinguprealities/witnessing-the-painful-fallout-of-female-promiscuity/

Sluts also hurt men by acting as if men have no emotional investment in sex. Men learn to shut down their emotional connection with promiscuous women, and the effect lasts a long, long time, something sluts don’t seem to understand.

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In the words of Dr. Dre, you can’t make a ho a housewife.

Now this this is one of them occasions

where the homies not doin it right

I mean he found him a hoe that he like

But you can’t make a hoe a housewife

And when it all boils down you gonna find in the end

a bitch is a bitch, but a Dogg is a man’s best friend

So what you found you a hoe that you like

But you can’t make a hoe a housewife (wife)

So why should sluts in particular dislike other sluts? Because it’s like looking in a mirror. A promiscuous woman knows that she is untrustworthy, and she knows that she is not respecting herself. When she sees another promiscuous women, she understands that such a woman will make a terrible friend.

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It’s not about competition. It’s about self-reflection. Sluts don’t like what they see in the mirror.

And neither does anybody else.

Sluts: ashamed of themselves. As they should be.

Lots of love,

JB

Slut shaming is just another way of calling out attention whores, and yes, that’s a good thing.

18 Jan

pearls

 

 

Ladies and gentlemen, allow me to draw your attention to a BRAND NEW, truly horrifying trend currently sweeping across the cultural milieu:

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What is slut-shaming?  Slut-shaming is when a young woman (or man) calls out another woman for dressing in an overtly and inappropriately sexual way.  Slut-shamers strenuously object to living in a culture where young women are sexualized at earlier and earlier ages, and dislike existing in a social milieu that requires them to measure their own worth in terms of their sexuality.

 

Hey girls…. did you know… you open a book… not your legs?

 

Now that right there is a completely OUTRAGEOUS suggestion.  Open a book?  What?!?  You mean offer something of value to the world that doesn’t involve tits and ass?  Goodness!  Why?

 

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What slut-shamers are doing, in actual fact, is calling out attention whores.  They ridicule young girls who put their sexuality on display for public consumption, because those slutty girls are creating a climate in which ALL girls are obligated to display their sexuality for public consumption.  And quite rightly, lots of young men and women are calling “bullshit”.

 

attention whore

 

There really are two separate issues with regards to slut-shaming.  One concerns sexual activity – young women who are sexually active (or even rumoured to be) can get slut-shamed.  However, you can’t tell by looking at someone whether they are sexually active.

 

This is more of a public health issue.  Young girls (like boys) DO NOT WANT to live in a world that includes expectations that they should be sexually active at a young age because “everyone else is doing it”. As soon as one 14 year old girl starts giving out blowjobs behind the school, the other girls have to live in a world where that becomes an expectation, a possibility, and obviously, they push back against that.

 

sabrina

 

While it’s theoretically possible that some 14 year old girls are perfectly capable of having mature and responsible sex and are capable of dealing with the emotional and physical implications of early sexuality, most are not.  And they do not want to live in a world that says they SHOULD be.

 

And let’s not leave boys out of this conversation.  The idea that somehow every 14 year old boy looks at his female contemporaries and thinks, “hell yeah, all I really want is a blowjob” is a really pernicious lie, and one of the perfectly valid reasons that feminists are accused of hating men and boys.

 

Boys are just as interested in romantic, emotionally connected relationships as girls are.  The idea that they are all monsters who see women only in terms of sexuality denies boys a very real part of their humanity, and ironically makes it even harder for them to connect to young women as human beings.  Romeo didn’t want to screw Juliet.  He LOVED her.  He was prepared to die for that love.  He DID die for love.  But seen through the man-hating goggles of feminism, Romeo was just a cad trying to get laid.

 

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So that’s one part of slut-shaming:  resisting the idea that it’s normal or healthy or desirable for young men and women to value one another only in terms of sexuality.  When a certain percentage of very young men and women are sexually active, they make it difficult for ALL young men and women by setting expectations for sexual behaviour far too high.

 

And they get scolded by their peers for that, and rightfully so.

 

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The second part of slut-shaming has to do with SIGNALLING sexual availability, even if you are not, in fact, sexually active.  Girls who walk around with their breasts on display, wearing short skirts and tons of make-up are specifically looking for attention of a sexual nature.

 

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It’s no different than carrying an Hermes handbag or wearing Louboutin shoes with their distinctive red soles or flashing a Cartier watch.  You invite people to make assumptions about your class and wealth and status and you signal your group affiliations to other people. Pretty much every good in the world that is not a straight up commodity is sold on that premise:  that people will assume things about you because you wear X or you drive Y or you drink Z.

 

hermes

 

Let’s go back to Sabrina.  She does not want to live in a world where her sexuality is the principle marker of her value, or something that is available for public consumption.  Put your boobs IN your shirt.

 

The fact that slut-shamers are largely other girls is a testament to the fact that young men and women have been essentially abandoned by the adults who surround them.  Their single mother parents are so caught up in attention whoring themselves, they fail to notice their daughters and sons struggling to cope with a culture that insists on their early sexualisation and then provides them with no tools to navigate or understand the implications of that sexuality.

 

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http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2263312/Shameless-mother-faces-Twitter-storm-Channel-4-sees-daughter-wild-binge-drinking-tour-Kavos.html

 

Shona Sibery (remember her) KNEW her daughter should not be wearing the uniform of a prostitute at 14 years of age, but decided drinking wine and letting it pass was the most reasonable response.  And guess what? Shona wouldn’t step up the plate and help her daughter understand what clothing is appropriate for a 14 year old, but her daughter’s peers certainly DID. Poor little Flo got slut-shamed for dressing like, well, a slut.  By other girls who DO NOT WANT to live in a world where it is okay for a 14 year old to wear enough make-up for bozo the clown, gold hootie shorts and a sheer panelled shirt.

 

http://judgybitch.com/2013/01/10/you-let-this-slide-are-you-fucking-crazy-where-is-your-common-sense/

 

Shona should have been the one to explain that to Flo, her daughter, but the Chardonnay beckoned, so too bad so sad for Flo. Flo’s peers did the job quite nicely.

 

When young women actively resist a culture in which all women are viewed only in terms of the public display of their sexuality, they are helping to create a world in which women can be valued for a myriad of qualities and not just sexuality.

 

applause

 

And for that, they should be applauded.

 

Lots of love,

 

JB

 

 

In praise of the Mighty Slut.

12 Nov

a word from Princess Pixie Pointless

As JudgyBitch wrote in her Nov 12th blog..how to compete with SLUTS

the only way for a REAL woman and not a slag to bag a man, is to do his laundry, know his needs and

walk thru the rain barefoot and pregnant.  Well, ladies, I call BULLSHIT.  If anything that animal hater, Schrodinger

taught us, is that there are two ways to kill a cat.

A woman who is enjoying herself and her 1960’s birth control revolution is deemed as  SLUT. Yep, someone that is fucking her brains out for the sheer joy of it. Not let’s say to bag a man, or find a husband. But just for sex.  Yes, maybe she has daddy issues, has deep insecurities, maybe she only feels loved if she is loved by another. But maybe not.  So the reasons for the SLUT mentality may be negative and self destructive, but maybe not.

Having spent my youth and teenage years as a loner geek, with no interest in boys and only interest in books, I finally got my heart good and properly broken in my early twenties. (total late bloomer). Once i got over the over dramatic I-will-never-love-again heartbreak, I had a revelation.

1. God won’t suck me into the earth for having sex before I am married. (huge relief there, didn’t leave his house for 3 days after my first sexual experience)

2. There is LOVE and there is SEX, yes both should go hand in hand, but don’t always.

I discovered that i could manipulate my physical features with make up, clothes and attitude and lots and lots of liquor and suddenly, loner loser enjoyed herself.  I wasn’t looking for a husband. Yes I was deeply insecure. Yes I had no father figure. Yes i had no positive role models in my life…(well JudgyBitch but she was off folding laundry at that point, so what was i to do?)

So i went out, between, work or school and had SEX. Lots of it. With all different types of men. I saw the world as a buffet of experience to be enjoyed.  Sure not all of it was pleasant.  But from footballers, to mathematicians, to scientists, tall, fat, lean, eager to commit, eager to please. I went out there not only to discover  what i wanted, but (albeit the hard way) to discover MY WORTH.

What i was and was not willing to put up with.  Sexually, personally.  I was not at the time looking for a relationship.  Maybe part of me was, I don’t think anyone in my world screamed LITTLE GIRL LOST more than I did.
But after enough encounters, I found myself…(this is not an EAT,PRAY,LOVE  bit of bullshit.)  Luckily I had good enough taste that many of my favorite encounters lasted into long term friendships, or worlds I would have never known about.

To all the married and coupled women out there, I was a SLUT, a Hussy, a threat maybe. (never went near married men, that is wrong)

So if you aren’t ready to settle down. Go Enjoy yourself.  But know, the party can only last so long!

Annabel Chung

When I met Mr.Pointless, i didn’t know how to do laundry, or cook, or do anything considered useful. But I knew what it meant to know myself and I knew that he was the one that i would be willing to learn all those things for.  Not that he wanted it, but it became necessary to have more than instant concrete in the fridge.  I was happy to create a home, settle down and be the wonderful wife and mother I am today.  Not all of us are born homemakers, but like all types of greatness, this was one that was simply thrust upon me and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

I have been with Mr.Pointless for 9 years and i don’t fold his laundry.  I hate housework, he likes me happy.
He didn’t interrogate me on my sexual history, i don’t think he needed to…I settled for a number under a hundred and just kept it at that. He appreciates my experience and takes his own shit to the dry cleaners.

I enjoyed my SLUT phase.

GO SLUTS. FIND your WORTH.

Then Go find someone who appreciates IT.

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